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A Denim Study

A Denim Study

I started my career in merchandising with Gap Inc. and American Eagle Outfitters, so I’ve always had a special place in my heart for denim — and probably always will!

 

When I think about what makes a great denim collection, it comes down to having a range: a balance of washes from light to dark, fits from relaxed to more structured, and enough variety to support how you actually want to feel day to day. For me, I’ve found the sweet spot to be about 8–10 great pairs.

 

Denim is about sensibility. Do I want to feel casual, polished, or hip? How is my body feeling today — do I want room, or need a little containment? Oh, you know that plus/minus five-pound reality.

 

I also like to stay current, and right now I’m into slightly lower rises and wider legs across the board. For my 5’3” curvy frame, Agolde and Citizens of Humanity are my most reliable favorites. I usually prefer denim with less stretch too because I like some structure.

 

Some days I start with the jeans and build from there. Other days I begin with the top and choose the pair that balances it.

 

Let’s start with my absolute favorite pair of the moment:

 

1. Citizens of Humanity Ayla Wide Leg Crop

Citizens Ayla Jeans– wearing size 26

This is easily my most worn pair right now. I’ve had them for just over a year and still reach for them constantly. The medium blue wash gives them such an easy, casual feel, and the oversized wide leg is great — they’re wider than a barrel, which I actually prefer. They help lengthen the legs. Also a big plus is that they work with nearly every sandal or shoe I own.

 

I love them so much that I also have the lighter wash, which feels especially right for cool summer vibes.

 

2. Agolde Low Curve Wide Leg Jeans

Agolde Low Curve Jeans– wearing size 25

I recently picked these up because I need a white wide leg option for spring and summer. They’re similar in shape to the Ayla, but full length, so I may trim an inch off the bottom. I’m generally not a huge fan of an overly frayed hem so I cleaned these up after snapping photos.

 

One note: always size down in white denim — the fabric tends to be more forgiving and stretch out over time. I also think it’s worth having one fitted white pair in a collection too, these have been in my closet for a few years now.

 

3. Agolde Ren Wide Leg Jeans

Agolde Ren Jeans– wearing size 26

These are a core pair for me. I love the vintage wash because it goes with almost everything. I end up wearing them at least once a week.

 

They sit higher at the waist and aren’t quite as wide through the leg, which makes them feel slightly more polished and easy for everyday wear. The clean hem helps too.

 

I also own them in a darker wash….another everyday option.

 

4. Agolde 90s Straight Jeans

90s Mid Rise Straight Jeans– wearing size 26

I originally bought these to wear with boots, but realized I don’t love how dark denim and dark boots feel together on me….unless I’m balancing with a lighter colored top.

 

I actually prefer them with some skin showing like this, so I may cut an inch off the hem to make them more wearable with sandals and flats. They have a little more edge than what I usually wear, which is stretching me stylistically. I like a good challenge though!

 

5. AYR Legend Jeans

AYR Legend Jeans– wearing size 27s

I just got this pair because I’ve seen so many people raving about them and had to try! The darker medium wash has a rich feel, and although they do have more stretch than I usually prefer, I understand why people love them: they really do hold you in and lift you up. The short length works great on me, even with a slight heel so they’re definitely a keeper. I know I’ll get a lot of mileage out of them.

 

A few last thoughts….

 

  • If you’re in the market for denim shorts, the Agolde Parker’s are my go-to.

  • I really want to try some wide leg pink jeans this season! Haven’t seen the perfect pair yet…manifesting them. Let me know if you see any.

  • And I’m still very loyal to Levi’s. My favorite pair for going out is high-rise, dark washed, and perfect with heels.

If I were building a denim collection from scratch, I’d prioritize:

 

  • A wide leg casual medium wash

  • A more polished medium wash

  • A wide leg white wash

  • A polished dark wash

Hope this is helpful if and when you’re in the market for a new pair! I like to keep my eye on Shopbop’s denim page because I think they do a good edit.

Why Growth Feels Lonely

Why Growth Feels Lonely

Feeling lonely is one of the most common things I hear from clients and peers, no matter what stage they’re in. Even if you have a family at home, a full calendar, a team, or a successful business—so much of growth happens internally, in ways other people can’t always understand.

 

Growth asks a lot of us. It asks us to trust what we’re sensing before there is proof. It asks us to hold uncertainty, make decisions without reassurance, and keep listening for what feels true, even when life is noisy.

 

And often, as we get clearer, our fears get louder. What if life won’t meet me where I’m meant to go?

 

That’s why support matters so much.

 

We need people who can meet us where we are—people who take the time to really see us, understand us, encourage us, challenge us, and sit with us while we figure things out. Not people who hand us their map, but people who help us return to our own.

 

That’s what my coach does for me. She doesn’t hold me up—she mirrors back my own power by staying in hers. And that’s what I aim to do with my clients.

 

Without that kind of reflection, it’s easy to stall. Doubt can become debilitating. The “shoulds” get loud. You might even know what to do, but you can’t just do it. I’ve gotten stuck there plenty of times—trying to think my way forward, hoping something external will just finally respond.

 

But growth eventually asks something deeper: not for more control, but for more self-leadership. It asks us to get in touch with what is genuinely calling us—what feels alive, meaningful, true—and then create structure around that.

 

What parts of yourself are you ready to grow into? What do you want to stand for? How do you want to relate with others? How does your natural energy work? How do you want to be of genuine service to the world?

 

Staying with those questions usually changes things around us. Relationships shift, old ways of operating stop working, unforeseen things trigger us, and sometimes careers turn upside down. The slate has to clear in order to hold what you’re calling in. Ugh, it’s so painful when you’re in it.

 

Growth doesn’t care about perfection or constant regulation—it asks for friction, courage, and a commitment to showing up even when it’s uncomfortable. Loneliness, rejection, discomfort, criticism, being misunderstood are all signs of alignment clicking into place.

 

After years of working with clients across many seasons of business and personal growth—from successful professionals to new creatives and entrepreneurs scaling beyond multiple six figures—I redesigned my 1:1 coaching offers to reflect the different chapters I guide people through:

 

  • Clarity & Direction: Figuring out what truly calls to you and taking the first steps.

  • Launching & Building: Strengthening confidence in business ownership, decision-making, and foundations.

  • Strategic Growth: Expanding capacity, operations, and visibility for long-term impact.

  • Identity Transformation: Deep reinvention—stepping fully into a new version of yourself and your life.

Along with these four main pathways, I offer focused six-session labs for deeper work in areas like business strategy, branding, visibility, leadership, operations, energy refinement, and personal style. These are designed to be flexible—you can start with a pathway, dive into a focused lab, and move between them as your needs and clarity evolve.

 

My work is rooted in strengthening your authentic self—using tools like Human Design, manifestation principles, strategic reflection, and thoughtful guideposts, along with exercises that help you understand how you operate best.

 

I don’t have a secret formula for helping you achieve big juicy goals. What I care most about is helping you grow stronger in your own direction—clear-headed, clear-hearted, and able to trust yourself more deeply. Because that’s my definition of success.

 

The biggest thing I hear after sessions is, “I feel more like myself again.” And that’s often when things begin to move differently—because we can actually hear ourselves more clearly.

 

This is how loneliness starts to transform into love of the Self—earned through showing up, sitting with yourself, staying present, taking aligned action, and refusing to abandon your inner riches for external validation and security.

 

Curious about working together? My updated coaching page shares these pathways and labs in detail, and I’d love to invite you in when the timing feels right. You can book a discovery call anytime to explore what’s best for you!

Shopping to Build, Not To Keep Up

Shopping To Build, Not To Keep Up

The great news is that we have endless choice….the paradox is figuring out how to choose.

 

After really studying what I wear most often—and what feels most like me—I’ve realized I return to these eight categories again and again. Knowing this is helping me filter out so much noise, shop to build, and still enjoy all the art without feeling the need to keep up.

 

No matter the season, these are the categories that consistently define my personal style. Some are core items, some are about styling, some about proportion, and some are about the energy of color, prints, and movement.

 

1. Colorful Knits & Accessories

Polo Sweater, Wave Stripe Sweater, Turtleneck Sweater, Turquoise Necklace, Multi Color Necklace, Woven Flats, Rose Sweater

I especially love colorful stripes and beautiful sweaters, probably because I wear them year-round in San Francisco. I pay close attention to color layout, fit, and material because those details make all the difference. I’ve realized I’ve moved away from overly fitted or bulky styles. In general, adding more color through shoes or necklaces instantly makes an outfit feel alive and personal. I’m tempted to splurge on this polo because wow is it extra special!

 

2. An Easy Oversized Button Down

Shirt, Belt, Jeans

A button-down is one of the most reliable pieces, especially for work days. I love an oversized fit—the kind that feels effortless but still intentional. I’m drawn to shapes that give room without losing structure. My go-tos are the Gap Big Shirt and the AYR Deep End.

 

3. Printed Pants & Skirts

Stripe Linen Pants, Sandals, Taffeta Pants, Embroidered Linen Pants, Woven Flats, Stripe Jeans, Beaded Necklace

I’m obsessed with printed bottoms because they immediately give an outfit life. Fit matters so much here though—and there are always lots of misses, but when they hit, they really do. I’m especially drawn to prints with depth, embroidery, stripes, or a special fabric that feel expressive.

 

If you love these stripe jeans, you have to see the matching jacket! I haven’t found a pair of silk pants I love but I thought these taffeta barrel pants might be worth a shot—I like the mix of fancy with a hip shape. I’ve tried these on but haven’t bought a pair yet because I don’t know what color to get!

 

4. Neutrals With Contrast

Sweater, Skirt, Flats (old Margaux)

I’m a big contrast person. If I’m wearing lighter tones, I almost always want something darker grounding them. Even with neutrals, I’m constantly playing with contrast because it creates presence and keeps simple outfits interesting. Sometimes it also just acts as a nice palette cleanser between more expressive looks too! I just picked up these white jeans for the season ahead.

 

5. A Piece That Says It All

Fruit Dress, Poppy Dress, Red Sandals, Vintage Chanel Earrings, Green Flip Flops, Floral Top

These are the pieces you instantly recognize as yeses! For me, they’re often brighter, expressive, and hard to ignore—in the best way. A strong print, a funkier color story, or a silhouette that carries the whole outfit without needing much else. I think this floral top would be so cool unbuttoned with jeans or a pair of denim shorts—I’ve been obsessing over all the loud Rixo prints right now.

 

6. Structured Blazers & Tops

Blazer (old Veronica Beard), Linen Pants, Vintage Ferragamo belt & LV Tote

I love adding a little structure when I’m out and about—especially for professional events or going out on the town at night. Structure heightens my sense of confidence, and feels most me when paired with softer or more relaxed pieces. I’m eyeing this cropped tweed blazer for a talk I’m doing in a couple months. More of this silhouette please! I think it would be so cute open with jeans and a belt.

 

7. A Great Maxi Dress

Paisley Maxi, White Floral Maxi, Shirt Dress, Turquoise Necklace, Turquoise Bottega Bag, Denim Flats, Black Floral Maxi, Dark Floral Maxi I’m Wearing

Maxi dresses are such easy pieces to live in, especially in temperate coastal weather. I especially love ones that doesn’t feel too precious—something that works just as easily with sneakers as with sandals or flats and that can easily take a cardigan thrown over it. The best ones move well and can shift depending on how they’re styled. My new favorite styling idea is wearing a shirt dress or wrap completely open and flowy like this. Which takes me to….

 

8. Flowy & Open Tops

White Top, Cardigan, Jeans, Flats, Vintage Necklaces

I’m always drawn to tops with movement. When shopping for these, I usually prefer open or interesting necklines and fabrics that create softness without losing shape. They bring ease to an outfit and often feel the most natural on me. I think this floral embroidered one would be worth the splurge. Also this one and this one are pretty special too.

 

As I put this list together, I found myself wondering why I rarely gravitate toward tight pieces or showing much skin—especially because sometimes I judge that preference in myself.

 

But I realized my style choices may just be intuitively protecting my sensitivity to the world. What I wear helps me feel safe, expressive, and in flow without overextending myself. And that was a cool aha!

 

The Next Best Step

The Next Best Step

I woke up the other morning exhausted. I’d been in the trenches all week–strategizing new directions, working on a big website project, recording a podcast, writing two Substacks, all on top of my normal coaching load. It was Friday, the sun was shining, and my calendar was wide open.

 

But, I didn’t feel that great– and honestly, I was a little mad about it. My brain was fried, my body tired, and my energy felt scattered. Why does this always seem to happen when I have a whole day free?

 

In an effort to feel better, I asked myself:

 

Do you want to go for a walk? No.

Back to bed? No.

Write? No.

Work? No.

Get a muffin and coffee? No.

The beach? YES!

 

So I went. The moment my toes hit the sand, the sun warmed my face, and dogs were running around happy as can be, I slowed down. No more thinking, just feeling. And that’s when the heaviness started to move. Little thoughts began bubbling up: my joy matters, my beingness matters, my aliveness matters, I matter.

 

I’d forgotten about this part of myself all this week, no wonder I was dragging.

 

Sometimes the next best step isn’t doing more.

 

I see this with clients all the time. They’re navigating uncertainty and that strange in-between space of having an idea but not quite knowing what to do next—and so they keep moving but, frantically.

 

I know this territory well too. We’re holding big visions and figuring out how to bring them to life without running out of our precious resources—time, energy, and money. We want clarity so bad but we don’t always know how to receive it.

 

Intuition is the guide quietly waiting for our attention. It doesn’t always swoop in to save the day with grand answers or hand over a roadmap. Often it gives us the next best step—one small drop of wisdom at a time. Sometimes it’s simply a quiet knowing that something is right… or a feeling that something isn’t quite aligned.

 

A client said on a call recently, “I feel like something is brewing just under the surface, but I can’t quite put my finger on it.” I said, “Oh, that’s so cool, I’m thinking that means you’re in flow with your intuition! It sounds like it’s nudging you to keep paying attention.”

 

INTUITION VS. EGO

 

Your intuition is your loving inner voice: gentle, calm, present, and wise. It whispers: maybe go here, check that out, try this next. I like to think of it as your most authentic self— the part of you that sees clearly, feels deeply, and knows what you need and deserve without needing a reason.

 

Your ego is fear based and lives in the mind. It feels frantic, urgent, and reactive—very black and white thinking. It tells you what you should do, spins you in circles, and tries to control outcomes. It’s not really an enemy; it’s just the little self running the show— the one that’s learned how to keep you safe and thinks it still is. But growth invites us to soften and trust a new story line.

 

Some people ignore their intuition. Others feel it so strongly it overwhelms them. We’re all on the journey somewhere, learning how to listen without letting fear take over.

 

Intuition speaks up when we stop blocking it. We can create space to receive it through meditation, journaling, time in nature, washing the dishes, taking a long shower, or a simple walk on the beach—basically anything that gets us out of the head and back into the body.

 

Intuition isn’t about seeing all the possibilities. That’s hope. Intuition is more about what feels true right now.

 

And sometimes it can be frustrating to hear, too. Not because we’re doing it wrong, but because intuition doesn’t always tell us what we want to hear. It tells us what we need. And sometimes that’s more safety, more space, or more life experience.

 

Before I closed my vintage shop, I received a few nudges. Moments when I was super open—dating, traveling, living—when I could hear myself more clearly. Maybe there’s more for you. Maybe something else is calling. What could be possible if you closed the shop?

 

Intuition doesn’t rush us. It keeps knocking until we’re ready.

 

THE HUMAN DESIGN LENS

 

In Human Design, your strategy and authority help illustrate how your intuition often connects with you— your natural way of generating movement and making decisions.

 

For me as a sacral authority, this means my intuition comes alive when I have options to respond to—what I like to call “feeding the gut.” In my creative work, this looks like constantly asking myself yes/no questions: Do I want to say this… or that? Do I want to sound like this… or like this? Do I like this format… or that one?

 

But my relationship with intuition goes beyond just gut responses. Over time, I’ve also found that certain parts of my design—especially the last two gifts in my incarnation cross—create a kind of inner stability. When those energies are flowing, my intuition feels especially clear and steady.

 

Not everyone experiences intuition as a gut feeling. Some feel it as an instant knowing, a wave of feeling, a flash of insight in the mind, a pattern that emerges over time, or even a bodily sensation.

 

Each of us has a unique relationship with our intuition, and getting to know it is surprisingly freeing. Instead of getting caught in everyone else’s drama or expectations, you notice the rich storyline of your own life unfolding.

 

BUILDING TRUST

 

I love this line I heard on a podcast:

“Intuition is the sum of all the times you’ve ever trusted yourself.”

 

Trust is a muscle that strengthens every time you listen to your intuition—and every time you appreciate it working. It carries you beyond the fears and doubts that inevitably arise and into the actions you know you’re meant to take.

 

I think back to some of the biggest decisions of my life—leaving my small town for college, taking a severance package and walking away from corporate, jumping full time into entrepreneurship without a safety net, opening stores in big cities. Through all of it, I’ve carried a quiet knowing that things would work out, no matter what—and so far, they have.

 

And maybe that’s what intuition really is: a deep inner trust that your gifts, your direction, your calling, and your most heart-centered desires belong to you. You can trust your own compass.

 

Entrepreneurship is paradoxical. On one hand, it invites us onto a profound journey of personal growth. On the other, it activates the ego to work even harder to protect us from the unknown. As we move toward what we want, we’re also learning to manage the voice that wants to keep us safe.

 

I share this perspective to help sharpen our discernment:

 

Is it our loving instinct guiding us—or our protector trying to control the outcome?

 

Remember, intuition doesn’t work well under pressure. It works when we slow down enough to listen. Prioritizing that space—even when life feels busy—is often the most powerful thing we can do. After all, it doesn’t matter how fast we’re moving if we’re not moving in the right direction.

 

If you’re curious about your own relationship with intuition, you could ask yourself:

 

  • When do I feel most open, calm, curious, or creative?

  • When has following a small intuitive step led to something meaningful?

  • How can I give myself more space this week to receive the next best step?

If you’d like to explore this deeper, we can look at it together through a Human Design chart reading. Understanding your strategy, authority, and the gifts that create your inner grounding can offer powerful insight into how your intuition naturally works.

 

This just might be your next best step.

A Vintage Glassware Study

A Vintage Glassware Study

Favorites from my vintage collection

I’ve loved collecting vintage glassware for years, and along the way, I’ve learned a lot about makers, styles, and techniques. I tend to gravitate towards pieces that function well in everyday life and add a bit of pizzazz to a space.

 

Over time, I’ve definitely bought my fair share of cute vases and dishes that never got used, or just didn’t feel quite right no matter how I styled them. Honestly, I’ve come to accept that’s just how you learn your own preferences — you’ve gotta work it!

 

Shopping in person at estate sales, antique shops and fairs—and then following my curiosity online to study a category deeper has helped trained my eye.

 

Now, I can spot quality, rarity, and usability instantly. Last weekend at the Alameda Antique Faire, I scored a few fresh pieces that inspired me to put together this guide of what I’ve learned and some of my favorite makers and terms to search for. Plus, a couple beauties that I currently have saved….

Teal Fluted Vase, Round Dotted Vase, Tall Wavy Vase, Blue & Green Bud Vase, Pink & Gold Vase, Tutti Frutti Vase, Ombre Vase, Swirl Bowl, Greek Key Vase, Gold Murano Dish, Bubble Foiled Vase, Floral Votive Holder, Daisy Candle Holders

Favorite Makers I Keep An Eye On

 

Please note some of these are for admiration and others for reasonable purchases! You know me, always after that perfect mix of high and low.

 

  • Heisey – An early 1900s American company. Great for interesting cut patterns in glasses, bowls, dishes, and vases. Here’s a cutie candy dish.

  • Tiffany & Co. – Was (and still is!) popular for luxury gifting. Their glassware is elegant and also surprisingly attainable online. I have this votive holder with little hearts on the rim. Also I’m obsessed with this bowl.

  • Waterford – Known for high-quality cut crystal. I love their vases, glasses, and frames. So many sparkly motifs to explore!

  • Baccarat – Prestigious French crystal since the 1700s. Pieces feel like statement works of art. I love the fluid shape of this vase.

  • Barovier & Toso – Handcrafted Murano glass from Italy, known for signature techniques (like the bubble vase above) and vibrant colors. This is one to drool over.

  • Lalique – Famous for matte frosted finishes, often sculptural and feminine in feeling. How could you not be obsessed with these tumblers?

  • Orrefors – Swedish craftsmanship I adore. Simple forms with thoughtful details like squiggles or waves. Most of my vases and candle holders are by them. This is the squiggle vase I use the most. Someone needs these daisy candle holders!

  • Libbey – Affordable American glass for everyday use— endless styles and colors to sift through. These are the blue flower glasses I have.

  • Mikasa – Clean modern designs, I have this wave dish.

  • Steuben – American crystal with clean designs and an insanely high refractive index so they shimmer like rainbows in the light. You have to see it to believe it!

  • Fostoria – Elegant American stemware and tableware, often with soft patterns. I recently scored a set of these green goblets.

  • Fenton – Collectible American glass, I love them for textured hobnail finds and bright colored designs like this Murrhina technique.

And sometimes, the obscure or unsigned pieces are the best finds—trust your instinct! If you love it, you love it and that’s all that matters.

 

Styles & Techniques I Love Exploring

 

  • Murano – The Murano glass world is massive, with tons of small makers. I love all the colorful finds and interesting techniques.

    • Millefiore – Means “a thousand flowers” in Italian. You’ll see tiny mosaic-like patterns in paperweights, bowls, and vases. How cute is this?

    • Tutti Frutti – Inspired by Millefiori but more playful, with colorful ribbons and confetti-like patterns. This vase is fun!

    • Sommerso & Latticino – Other Murano techniques worth perusing, like this.

  • Bubble Glass – Glass that intentionally traps air bubbles inside as part of the design like this and this.

  • Crystal – High-quality glass that’s heavier, clearer, and sparkly. Cut crystal adds extra elegance and glam!

  • Depression Glass – Affordable, mass-produced colored glass made mainly in the U.S. during the 1920s–40s.

  • Handblown Glass – Shaped by artisans blowing air into molten glass. Each piece is therefore unique with more organic shapes.

  • Frosted Glass – Soft, matte, slightly opaque surfaces, like this.

  • Czech/ Bohemian Glass – Known for deep cut patterns and vibrant colors. Someone needs this vase!

  • Milk Glass – Opaque white (sometimes pale colored) glass.

  • Hobnail Glass – Glass with a raised, textured pattern of small bumps or “nubs”.

Shapes I Reach for Again and Again

 

  • Glasses – Water glasses and true wine glasses like goblets and stemware. Nice to also have are martini glasses, tumblers, and champagne flutes. Sets of 6–8 are ideal, but sometimes 2 is all you really need.

  • Vases – I rarely use tiny openings unless it’s a bud vase. I mostly purchase larger shapes for tulips, peonies, hydrangeas, roses, or mums- the flowers I buy most often. Globe vases, big inverted vases, and anything with a wide opening for unruly blooms are my favorites. Currently love this one and this one.

  • Living Room Wares – I’ve collected a mix of candle holders for votives, candlesticks, and 3–4” pillar candles. I’m always on the lookout for small catch-alls to corral small things like keys, matchbooks, pens, dainty jewelry, lipsticks, hair ties, palo santo, q-tips, and makeup brushes. I also love glass picture frames (though they’re a bit rarer). And one of my dream finds is a wine bottle coaster—I just haven’t stumbled on “the one” yet (something like this).

  • Kitchen Wares – Tricky to collect without overdoing it. Look for serving trays you’ll actually use, bowls for salads and sides, little stacking snack dishes, cake stands, and ice buckets (which can always dual-purpose as a vase).

Collecting glassware has taught me so much about practicality and discernment. Amazing vintage glass is everywhere at all price points—it’s so easy to get awestruck. But if your gut says yes, definitely grab it while you can!

 

Have you found anything worth mentioning recently?

Values Set The Direction

Values Set The Direction

When I work with clients, I share a word library and ask them to circle 4–5 words that feel like home:

Freedom. Beauty. Authenticity. Depth. Abundance.

 

These are some of the ones I see most, because I work with creatives and entrepreneurs who want to bring their energy alive—through their aesthetics, their schedules, their voice, and their work. They want to trust themselves and feel lit up by their own lives.

 

And so do I. These are my core values too.

 

Values vs. Beliefs

 

Values are dreamy and directional. But, beliefs are the operating system we actually live them through.

 

We can’t experience freedom if our belief system hasn’t proven it can hold that much life. We can’t embody authenticity if we believe being fully seen will cost us connection or our sense of control. We can’t experience abundance if we brace against our own life force.

 

I’ve been reflecting on this a lot lately as I’m eight months into full-time coaching, and can feel that my next level isn’t about more strategy. It’s about communication: bringing my values to life by being honest about what I truly believe and sharing where I actually am.

 

A Way of Seeing

 

Every business has a core operating philosophy—whether it’s named or not. A lens for how you see the world, a set of assumptions about what matters, how growth happens, and what to prioritize.

 

I’ve learned the hard way: following your intuition can take you far, but without clarity about who you are and what you want, it can exhaust you, confuse you, and even burn you out.

 

Our greatest impact lives in the dance between creativity and structure. On one hand creativity without structure can scatter our energy, while on the other, structure without creativity can feel lifeless. This push and pull is exactly what makes building meaningful work so exhilarating—and also so overwhelming at times.

 

Having a clear philosophy is what keeps us steady through the messiness. It becomes the backbone for our decisions, commitments, and growth—the compass that keeps us moving even when the path is foggy.

 

Shedding Old Beliefs

 

For a long time, I thought freedom meant constant movement and taking bold risks. Swimming in ideas felt safe to me—but looking back, it was often just a way to avoid the work of rooting deeply in what I truly desired. I’m learning now that devotion is what makes freedom feel most secure.

 

Having all eyes on me used to make me overheat. My voice would weaken as I felt pressure to give others what they wanted, not what I truly wanted. The cost of believing I didn’t deserve space? Overgiving. Hiding my depth. Not knowing who I really was. Feeling like no one would ever meet me.

 

I had to let these old beliefs play out long enough to feel their consequences— loneliness, exhaustion, grief— to admit they weren’t giving me the life I said I wanted. To shift them, I’ve had to slow down, sit with my own discomfort, and let people see me as I truly am in each moment—without shrinking, running, or pretending.

 

This has required patience, self-compassion, and repeated reminders that all of me is welcome as is—no matter how others react. It’s also meant choosing which parts of me, and how much of them, I share, when.

 

Installing a New System

 

I’m practicing believing that it’s safe to want what I want—and that it’s never too late. That I can build slowly, imperfectly, and still powerfully. That rejection isn’t proof I should shrink—it’s proof I’m visible, and not everyone is meant to stay. That the right people will grow alongside me.

 

Here’s how that’s showing up in my core values:

 

  • Freedom → A commitment to building infrastructure — even when it’s messy.

  • Beauty → Following the little things — letting nudges guide my style, movement, and environment.

  • Authenticity → Leading myself instead of managing perception — even if I risk being misunderstood.

  • Depth → Leaning into tension to unlock insight — and tolerating rejection to find my people.

  • Abundance → Letting flow come from capacity and self-worth — allowing desire instead of bracing for validation.

I don’t live these perfectly every day. But they’re a compass, a way to steady myself and make investments into my future self.

 

This is the work I do with clients—helping them notice the programs running quietly in the background, because those beliefs shape what we create and allow into our lives.

 

It’s also the work I’m endlessly committed to for myself—because I want to experience the full river of me: my clarity, my slower, vulnerable depth, and my playful, sparky, creative self.

 

Each of us carries a rich, unique mix of dynamic energy within us. Which of your values might be ready for a belief upgrade today?

Expressive Pieces To Feel Alive In

Expressive Pieces To Feel Alive In

I love putting these posts together—curating pieces that feel expressive and wearable is one of my favorite things. The specialness is in the color, the print, the details, the texture, the shape…. the whatever feels most alive for you.

 

I could see myself wearing all of these in multiple ways. Pairing them with different shades of denim, contrasting them with lighter or darker tones, or letting them get even bolder with more color or print.

 

My goal in sharing this vast range of options is to help train our eye. So that when we’re out sifting through secondhand shops, scrolling endlessly through emails or websites, we can easily discern what’s worth it, what isn’t, and why.

 

Every month on Shopmy, I set up a folder to collect the pieces that catch my eye—Vintage/Secondhand Finds, New Finds, Fantasy Designer Finds. It’s become one of my favorite evening wind down rituals.

 

Here’s what’s caught my eye this month:

Stripe Polo, Abstract Sweater, Cardigan, Necklace, Sunglasses, Flats, Stripe Skirt, Floral Skirt, Fleece, Tie Top

  • Stripe Polo – Really wanting to play around with some sportier looks and think a feminine polo is in my future! I also love this one and this one.

  • Yellow Cardigan – This cardi also comes in a crisp mint green.

  • Abstract Sweater – I’m obsessed with Paul Smith right now. Funky, fresh, and unexpected. This sweater has glitter in it! And check out this dream vacation dress.

  • Beaded Necklace – The contrast here is everything. It would elevate any outfit.

  • Velvet Flats – I have to give credit to Lauren who spotted these, and wow, what a sweet surprise (btw, she’s so good at that).

  • Sunglasses – Sunglasses really polish every outfit so I think investing in a new pair every year really goes a long way. I just snagged these! Get ready to see me wear them all the time.

  • Tie Top – A fresh silhouette that stopped a scroll.

  • Stripe Skirt – Playful yet elevated in linen. Also adore the matching shirt.

  • Floral Skirt – A steal at H&M. Maxi lovers, size down.

  • Pastel Fleece – Always on the hunt for flashy outerwear, something that says I’m not afraid.

Fringe Cardigan, Suede Belt, Woven Flats, Woven Bag, Mini Skirt, Stone Earrings, Heart Pendant, Floral Top, Navy Floral Top, Stripe Cardigan, Beaded Necklace, Heart Earrings, Quilted Jacket

  • Fringe Cardigan – I recently discovered Alanui cardigans from Sam Boskey (her feed is an absolute delight) and then saw Julia Berolzheimer wear one in a reel. OBSESSED is an understatement. One of these is the outfit.

  • Heart Earrings – Similar to a pair I always get compliments on.

  • Quilted Jacket – Oversized fit, contrast piping, and a touch of SoCal cool.

  • Navy Floral Top – Not sure the western trend is fully my vibe, but this one nods to it in a way that can be worn year-round in different ways.

  • Stripe Cardigan – You just really have to see the fabric and colors up close on this one. I’ve also been dreaming about this super splurge stripe set.

  • Blue Suede Belt – Interesting belts are harder to find than you’d think. Keep your radar on. Red, leopard, beaded, embroidered—we want options!

  • Marigold Flats – I have a pair of marigold flats I wear allll the time, funny how this shade can end up being so versatile.

  • Daisy Mini Skirt – Maybe the least wearable here, but oh my heart! I couldn’t resist it and the matching tank. Some pieces are just instant yes that make no sense at all.

  • Beaded Necklace – Love that this one isn’t so perfect with the mix of shapes. Feels like it would make a look feel a bit more lived in.

  • Woven Bag – THIS COLOR! A belt would be fantastic with it too—note to any designers out there: we need navy blue belts too, please!

  • Dainty Heart Pendant – This Lapis Lazuli heart necklace deserves a click.

  • Stone Drop Earrings – I’m excited to explore colorful beaded earrings this year. These also caught my eye.

  • Floral Boho Top – Farm Rio is my go-to for special tops and dresses. Every detail feels considered, every piece feels intentional. In today’s market, that kind of care is so rare—and so worth it.

These pieces are all about quality, versatility, and feeling special—not price—because if we let price dominate our thinking, we never give ourselves the chance to see, to explore, to learn. Desire needs space to run free. And often, after that exploration, I find that just one or two pieces are all I truly want to own anyway!

Value Is Everything In Business

Value Is Everything In Business

Circa S&S Days, 2014

When I first started in business, I didn’t even know what a value proposition was. It sounded like some statement I had to craft perfectly. So I took a stab at it with language that felt abstract and generic—just following my intuition then tossing it in a drawer.

 

Here’s what I learned: you really don’t need the perfect elevator pitch or a polished mission statement. You need clarity on what you value about yourself—and how that resonates with others.

 

When business doesn’t grow as fast as you hoped, it’s easy to assume no one wants what you have or that something is wrong. You can rewrite your bio, tweak your offer, redesign your website, and create content nonstop. I’ve been there. But over time, I’ve realized none of that solves the root issue if your own clarity about your value isn’t there.

 

The tricky part? That clarity rarely arrives all at once. It’s something we grow into at our own pace.

 

Think of it like this: your favorite dress just hanging in your closet, waiting for warm weather. When you pull it out, add a pair of new strappy sandals, a green bag, and pink sunglasses, it comes alive. Your choices and energy bring it to life.

 

Some people start with product first — building and experimenting — and let their energy emerge naturally over time. Others start with a big vision, or a feeling, and then build around it. Either way, energy is what powers a business.

 

Value is Discovered, Not Declared

 

Most of us start with that value proposition on paper, outlining what we think we can do. But real understanding comes from living it. Execution is everything in business. Clarity grows through experience, challenges, and reflection — by noticing what resonates, saying goodbye to what drains us, and leaning into more of what feels good.

 

At Sweet & Spark, I eventually realized we weren’t just selling vintage jewelry. We had built something that was serving two very different types of value. Collectors were drawn to the rarity and uniqueness of the pieces and the aesthetic lovers were drawn to the feeling of femininity and luxury curation.

 

We were speaking to both customers, and over time, our message began to blur. And to top it off, what energized me the most wasn’t just the product or vibe of the aesthetic — it was the storytelling, leading, and personal growth. Realizing the difference between tangible and intangible value (and my own energy) taught me that what truly drives a business is alignment.

 

Tangible vs. Intangible Value

 

It’s natural to focus on tangible value– the product, the offer, the deliverables, the framework, the outcome. It feels measurable and controllable.

 

But the longer I’ve been in business, the more I’ve come to see that intangible value is what creates growth and demand. Your discernment. Your lived experience. Your standards. Your way of seeing. The way you embody what you share.

 

That’s the deeper asset. The product is simply the vehicle through which we give and learn. But we are the constant.

 

Standard Value Proposition Teaching vs. My POV

 

Standard business teachings say:

 

  • Define your target market

  • Identify their pain point

  • Clarify the transformation you provide

  • Make a clear statement of value

It’s external, structured, and market-first. Someday, your value proposition might become a clean sentence: “I help ___ go from ___ to ___ through ___.” But I’ve found that sentence is truly only understood once it’s lived.

 

Here’s how I see it:

 

  • Trust your superpower

  • Stand for something & exchange with those who resonate

  • Refine your value through lived experience

  • Let the vehicle and packaging evolve

Through experience, I’ve come to see coherence as the North Star — understanding who you are and how you operate. That’s where real confidence, fulfillment, and sustained momentum come from.

 

I want to be clear: we are not our businesses. We are the ones running them. We decide what frequency (and how much of it) we pour into them at any given time.

 

Starting with energy is what gives us that sense of freedom we’re looking for.

 

Why Most Value Propositions Don’t Land

 

Over the years, I’ve noticed a few patterns, myself included:

 

  • Sometimes we don’t yet see our own value clearly — so our experiments feel scattered.

  • Sometimes we sense our value but don’t fully trust it. We soften it, hedge, or dilute it.

  • Sometimes we are clear — but we communicate it once and then retreat when it doesn’t immediately land.

  • And sometimes our model simply can’t hold the kind of value we want to deliver — either our energy is too alive, or not yet ready.

This is why I don’t see a value proposition as just a sentence. It’s an evolving alignment — between who you are, what you stand for, what you build, what your model can sustain, and what people actually need.

 

It’s less about testing a fixed statement and more about asking yourself:

 

  1. What is my natural superpower — the thing I do effortlessly and consistently?

  2. What do I deeply care about standing for?

  3. What kind of work do I actually want to build around that?

  4. What kind of people do I want to exchange energy with?

  5. If I stripped everything away, what would still be mine to give?

At the end of the day, business is a journey of self-discovery and an exchange of energy with those who value what we value.

 

The Part That Takes Time

 

With every pivot, I am humbled. Refining your value takes patience and time.

 

At Sweet & Spark, clarity didn’t come from a single brainstorm. It came over many years of consistent marketing, monthly hindsight meetings, tracking analytics, and noticing what sold, what didn’t, and why.

 

Direction rarely comes from thinking harder. It comes from understanding, committing, building, observing, and refining. We have to fall in love with the process itself.

 

What I know now is that my value isn’t in some perfectly packaged product, post, or offer. It’s in how I see patterns, how I attune, how I lean in, and how I help others see themselves—brought to life in ways that feel aligned and meaningful.

 

The tangible expression of our work evolves but the asset always remains. This is the work of being devoted to our purpose.

Love Notes- February 2026

Love Notes- February 2026

 

This month has been full of experimenting with how to bring inspiration alive in little ways. A recent highlight was leading a manifestation workshop at The Marin Merchant in Sausalito— an intentional gathering where everyone created vision boards full of ideas and dreams for the year ahead. It was an evening filled with organic connection and joy!

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Balancing creativity and strategy has been front and center for me. Eight months into full-time coaching, I’m noticing how my creativity needs structure now that the vintage shop is no longer part of my days. That structure looks like dedicated writing blocks, clear frameworks to build from, client days, and time set aside for networking. But it can’t keep me chained to my desk — I thrive when it’s still fluid.

 

Tiny moments throughout the day are keeping the creativity moving. Dancing to a song mid-day. Lighting a candle. Zhuzhing up an outfit. Flipping my hair and giving my scalp a little rub. Reapplying my favorite lipstick. Putting on my favorite scent. All of it is helping me create from good energy.

Cooking and baking for myself feels most satisfying in small, intentional ways. One big salad theme, one easy recipe that stretches into leftovers, and one sweet treat each week. Favorites this month: an easy turkey taco skillet, citrus arugula salad (I add chicken), salmon bowls, and my go-to coconut date balls.

My dad came to visit for a week, and we spent the days enjoying our favorite activities together: coastal walks, antiquing, eating Mexican food, park hangs, and exploring beautiful architecture and paint colors around the city. We took a trip up the coast to Mendocino and stayed at the MacCallum House right in town— such a charming little spot. I also discovered a couple new places from Lacy Phillips’s recent Substack to try on the next trip: Maritime Cafe and Orr Hot Springs.

As always, antiquing has been a rich source of discovery this month. Between the annual White Elephant Sale in Oakland and the monthly Alameda Antique Faire, I came across so many special pieces to elevate everyday life — like green goblets, floral plates (do you see the little oranges and lemons?), plaid napkins, and a cute berry bowl.

In business-related exploration, I recently read a book recommended in our Magnetize Your Business group called Wealthy and Well Known. I found myself studying more closely the chapters on strategy development — thinking about value, differentiation, and how ideas are shared.

 

Something that stood out for me in my coaching work is noticing how I naturally support creatives in expressing themselves. The way I do this feels like attunement — sitting with thoughts and ideas long enough for clarity to emerge. It’s one of the most inspiring business books I’ve read in a long time.

February has been an interesting month for getting dressed. It’s been so lovely in California, we usually have an early spring but then the rain rolled back in. So this time of year, I’m always a big fan of spring forward colors in warm pieces, like these sweaters. I’d link, but everything is old— I am eyeing this and this though.

I was inspired by a vintage book I stumbled upon at a thrift shop and decided to plant my own daffodil and hyacinth bulbs this year. The big pots of dirt scattered around my apartment are reminding me to be grateful and appreciative of all seasons. The day we plant the seeds is not the day we eat the fruit!

I’m working behind the scenes with my friend Natalie Burrow to update the 1:1 offerings page on my website with all of the clarity that’s been pouring in the last couple months. I’m excited to share more soon! Along with an update on my 6 month group experiences as I’m learning more about what entrepreneurs are needing most right now.

 

February has been a series of little creative experiments. And that feels good in true 3/5 Manifesting Generator spirit!

The Art Of Curating

The Art of Curating

One of the most honest ways to get to know yourself is to notice what lights you up. What catches your eye, what pulls you forward, what makes your heart sing without an explanation.

 

Noticing the color palette of an abstract oil painting. A table layered in mixed prints. A colorful beaded necklace sitting quietly in a dusty bin at an antique fair. These moments are not random, they are meant for you.

 

What you collect becomes a mirror. The colors, the patterns, the styles—they reflect something deeply internal.

 

But collecting is not the same as curating. Collecting is exploration. It’s experimentation. It’s letting yourself be drawn toward what feels alive without needing to know why.

 

Curating is discernment, when you pause and ask: Does this enhance what I already have, deepen the path I’m on, and make space for what matters?

 

Collecting gathers. Curating edits.

 

And style — style is what remains after both. Style is orientation. A way of speaking without saying anything at all.

 

Style begins where experimentation settles into self-trust.

 

And here’s the part that often gets missed. Taste does not arrive fully formed. You don’t wake up one day and “know your style.” It unfolds slowly. One bad buy, one splurge, one obsession, one tacky look, one unusual find, and one season at a time.

 

It reveals itself through living. Through noticing patterns in what you reach for— and don’t— again and again. Your soul doesn’t shout its preferences, it drips them to dance with.

 

So if you’re paying attention, the more you see, the more you know.

 

Vintage and antiques, for me, are simply a medium. They aren’t about hoarding. They’re about inspiring a room, a closet, a corner of your life that feels undeniably yours. They don’t tell you what to do, they spark original ideas to follow.

 

Some pieces carry stories — a rare find, a day spent out and about, a memory from travels. Others are purely functional. Both belong. A collection is where your internal tension finds form and a sense of belonging.

 

Curating is about remerchandising constantly — seeing your collection as an ever-evolving work of art, a living, breathing extension of yourself. It’s stepping back and asking: What is the point of view here? What feelings tie this together? What wants to stay? What wants to go?

 

More is not better. At the end of the day, this isn’t about things — it’s about claiming yourself, your direction, and the world you want to live inside. A calibration of your enoughness meter.

 

As I get to know my world — and you know yours — let’s meet there. Not to copy, not to compete, but to admire and exchange perspectives. When style has language, that’s when the conversation becomes interesting.

 

The more you see, the more you know and the more you know, the more the world feels like home.

Collected Looks: Playful, But Grounded

Collected Looks: Playful, But Grounded

I collected a handful of pieces I’ve been loving lately, filed them here, and then played around in Canva until they became outfits I’d actually wear.

 

They’re playful, but still grounded.

 

I’m a big believer in practicality when it comes to getting dressed for every day. I always want to look put-together and feel comfortable moving through the day. If something it’s too fussy, precious, or impractical, it just won’t last in my closet.

 

Here’s what I came up with.

 

Look One: Tone on Tone, Anchored

Sweater/ Pants/ Denim Jacket/ Belt/ Flats/ Beaded Necklace/ Vintage Heart Pendant/ Vintage Signet Ring

This one was inspired by an outfit I wore a couple weeks ago and loved. I recreated it with a pair of barrel pants (I’ve tried them — they’re great) and a sage green cashmere v-neck, a silhouette I reach for constantly.

 

Tone-on-tone can feel boring without a contrast, so I grounded it with a dark denim jacket and lighter accessories to keep it feminine but not overly sweet. These mesh floral flats are the best out there right now!

 

Look Two: Pretty, Cut with Sport

Top/ Jacket/ Jeans/ Vintage Chanel Clutch/ Mesh Flats/ Necklace/ Earrings/ Sunglasses

This look started with the top — I love a romantic top with an open neckline.

 

To keep it from feeling too girly, I paired it with a sporty blue rain jacket and my current favorite wide-leg jeans (I own them in two washes). The contrast makes it feel cool.

 

The mid 2000s Chanel clutch adds personality without overpowering it. I just ordered these sunglasses to try, and the Alaïa flats are more of a “note to self”. I always keep my eyes open for printed and colorful shoes.

 

Look Three: Print, But Make It Grown-Up

Cardigan/ Pants/ Sandals/ Vintage Chanel Bag/ Sunglasses/ Necklace

I fell in love with these printed pants (and this striped pair), which inspired this look.

 

I like how the tonal pink feels cohesive, while the black elements cut through and mature it a bit. Without that contrast, it could definitely skew overly playful.

 

I’ve been hunting for a good pendant necklace lately — harder to find than you’d think — but this one is so thoughtful. And I’m curious what you think about the Chanel LAX bag? I’ve been noticing relaxed leather bags having more of a moment lately, which makes me so happy!

 

Look Four: Soft Color, Strong Lines

Sweater/ Jeans/ Bag/ Shoes/ Belt/ Sunglasses/ Earrings

This started with the buttery yellow sweater — a shape I love for layering over button-downs or under jackets. The swingy hem makes it especially good with elastic waist bottoms too.

 

The lilac bag and the funky shoes— à la Pucci — keeps it interesting, but the dark brown suede belt and sunglasses anchor everything. I almost always need something grounding when I wear softer color palettes.

 

Look Five: Romantic, Structured

Dress/ Shoes/ Bag/ Earrings/ Cardigan

I’m obsessed with the craftsmanship of this dress — you have to see it on a model to appreciate the detail. It’s soooo special.

 

To keep it from feeling too precious, I paired it with the striped Valentino tote. The chunky chain straps remind me of my vintage Chanel tote — I love the tension between soft and strong. This dreamy bag really nails it.

 

The flats are affordable, but if you were going to splurge on one pair this season, I’d do it with a pair of these crochet flats.

 

And I will always throw a cardigan over a maxi dress. The right blues like this become neutrals in your closet.

 

Happy Valentine’s Day weekend. I hope you treat yourself to something that feels both playful and grounded!

Depth Is The New Currency

Depth Is The New Currency

Depth is one of those words that gets tossed around casually.

 

“Wow, that’s so deep.” “Oh, I love to go deep on things.” “So-and-so is such a deep person.”

 

But feeling deeply isn’t the same as being deep.

 

What depth actually is

 

Depth is the capacity to perceive, process, and integrate what lies beneath the surface.

 

It’s not just an emotional high or low—it’s pattern recognition and discernment. It’s the willingness to stay with something long enough for it to change you, and then let that change guide how you move next.

 

Everyone has depth. But not everyone recognizes it, contains it, or knows how to use it.

 

Some people experience depth as excitement, then abandon it. Some feel it as power, then pull back when commitment is required. Some use it as fuel to achieve, only to lose the truth. Some give it away to others before ever owning it. Some drown in it without structure. Some overthink it, waiting for clarity or permission. Some let it pass by unnoticed.

 

The real question isn’t whether you’re deep—it’s whether you stay with your waters after a wave of intensity hits. That’s how we build our capacity to trust the gold.

 

The leak no one talks about

 

A client asked me last week, “when we’re feeling good, why do we always feel like we’re waiting for the other shoe to drop?”

 

That feeling of fear? It’s false evidence appearing real. Staying with it—observing without running or abandoning yourself—anchors your depth and turns intensity into lasting power.

 

Most people experience depth in flashes: a moment of clarity, a surge of emotion, an intimate conversation, a creative high. And then… they move on.

 

But expansion requires contraction. The other “shoe dropping” gives contrast and a chance to respond from a newly empowered place. Depth isn’t just the wave—it’s the entire ocean beneath it.

 

If depth isn’t held and channeled, it leaks. It shows up as restlessness, “keeping your options open,” endless research, performative growth, busyness disguised as progress, or shutting down ideas before they’ve even had a chance to form.

 

Why depth is the new currency

 

We don’t need more fleeting intensity. We need staying power.

 

In a world addicted to output, reaction, and visibility, the rarest skill is the ability to linger, stay curious, sit with discomfort, make a choice and commit to it, and to let that commitment compound into growth.

 

Depth becomes our inner stability through the work we build, the relationships we tend to, the standards we live by, and the visions we bring to life. Power isn’t loud—it’s precise. It’s anchored in trust: “I know how I move.”

 

Those who feel deeply—and actually stay—they change things. And that’s currency, because people trust what endures.

Found & Felt Vol. 3

Found & Felt- Vol. 3

Lately, I’ve been focused on my home décor shopping list. I’m not in a rush to buy, but I love having a good list to build into—especially because you can’t pressure your way into a perfect vintage find.

 

If you’re local to the Bay, The White Elephant Sale is the biggest rummage sale of the year, running from late January through February. Over the years, I’ve found so many special pieces there, like the oak mirror in my bedroom and my dark wooden nightstands. Their glassware and linens are always worth a dig through too.

 

This year, I found an adorable Italian berry bowl. (Tip: always check the bottom of glassware and ceramics for signatures!) Once you find one special thing, it almost always inspires the hunt for more—that’s one of the best parts.

 

The following weekend, I headed to the monthly Alameda Antique Faire and found the most gorgeous hand-painted Peruvian mirror by Robert Weiss. I paid $50, and later saw a few have sold on 1stDibs for close to a thousand. She’s an absolute beauty.

 

Here are a couple more things catching my eye lately…

Wine Glasses- I found a set of these vintage green glasses at The White Elephant Sale too, to sit alongside my stemless collection of swirled ones that I’ve had for years. These are admittedly expensive, but I love their playfulness—and they’re a good reminder to keep an eye out for color and interesting shapes when it comes to glass.

 

Wavy Mirror– I think I’m officially obsessed with the wave. It feels like a little reminder to ride your own waves. There’s something so relaxed and intuitive about the shape. I would love this mirror on a light colored wall—the contrast is perfect. It also comes in a full length version.

 

Floral Printed Dress– This Fauvist floral caftan stopped me in my tracks. It reminds me of the style of artwork I fell in love with in Europe this summer. The green feels fresh against the darker accents, and it would be beautiful with a long necklace—easy to dress up or down. This print is also available in a wrap skirt.

 

Abstract Painted Top– Speaking of art, I’m also loving this Ulla Johnson print. It would feel like wearing a painting—or maybe becoming the art yourself 🙂

 

Bordeaux Beaded Necklace– I bought a vintage carnelian necklace on eBay last year and I’m still surprised by how often I reach for it. A color you wouldn’t expect to become a staple, yet here we are so I have to recommend one to you!

 

Polo Hat– I love a good baseball hat on the weekend. I have all the basics covered, so a pop of color would be a bright, sunny update. My favorite though is the blue on blue.

 

Stripe Button Down– This is my favorite oversized shirt fit. I especially love it in this new bold, contrasting blue stripe.

 

Sneakers– You know by now that New Balance 574s are my go-to walking shoe. They just released a dusty rose pink shade, which feels perfect with any neutral legging.

 

Zodiac Signet Ring– Have been wondering lately if I would like a pinky ring. This one feels especially meaningful—and comes in sizes small enough to make that possible.

 

That’s it for this week. If you want more eye candy, you can find all my collections on ShopMy. Highly recommend it for organizing your wishlist—creators can join here!

The Heartbeat of Entrepreneurship

The Heartbeat of Entrepreneurship

To me, entrepreneurship is a way of life you feel called to live long before you ever make the leap. It isn’t for everyone. But if you feel the pull, it isn’t optional either.

 

It’s a feeling that won’t let you settle, no matter how much you try. It insists on moving towards something, even when you don’t know exactly what that is.

 

I grew up in a family of entrepreneurs. My grandparents, aunts, and uncles, started a hardware and lumber business the year I was born. My dad has been a house painter, antique dealer, and handyman my whole life. My first job was stocking nails, my second job was scraping paint.

 

Freedom was in the air I breathed. So was hard work and responsibility. I inherited a belief that living autonomously wasn’t reckless, but natural. All you had to do was keep moving.

 

For me, entrepreneurship wasn’t born from stagnation. It came from expansion. I was thriving in corporate—leading a startup brand, traveling, running marathons—and noticing just how alive I could feel. I glimpsed my own capacity and thought, I could do more, be more, give more.

 

Outgrowing containers isn’t about failure. It’s a recognition that something more alive wants to come through.

 

As entrepreneurs, we live inside a question most people are taught to suppress: What do I deeply, truly want to experience? And is that even possible?

 

We don’t ask this once. We live inside it. We go to sleep holding the possibility. We wake up to it again the next day. We do not give up on it.

 

And maybe that’s what makes us entrepreneurs—the willingness to live inside the questions.

 

Of course, we want to build things, achieve things, learn things, influence, add value.

 

But underneath all of that is something much simpler.

 

We want to be free. And we want to remind others that freedom is possible too—that life can be made up in whatever way feels true to you.

 

So there’s only one way to share that: by creating something.

 

Sometimes, the world isn’t sure what to do with us. Systems try to measure us, pull our attention outward, and rush our clarity.

 

We can’t operate where the fullness of our energy isn’t welcome—where we’re asked to shrink, where our sense of security is tied to something that asks us to abandon ourselves.

 

Stagnation doesn’t just feel uncomfortable—it feels heavy. Depressing. Constricting. Like a loss of life force. We’re built for more life.

 

Bankruptcy. Empty bank accounts. Weeks of uncertainty. Health scares. Months where nothing seems to happen.

 

To someone else, these moments might look like failure. To us, they are thresholds.

 

This is why we practice. Turning toward doubt, fear, and resistance—not as enemies, but signals that we’re touching the edges of what matters.

 

Numbness is the real danger. So we let in whatever shows up. Discomfort is survivable. Creative tension is gold.

 

Living with uncertainty doesn’t mean chaos. It means choice. Entrepreneurship is a way to honor what is already within.

 

Every morning, we decide what we create—through our words, our decisions, our actions, our willingness to keep moving towards the life that is ours to steward, even when the path isn’t clear.

 

There is no guarantee. But there is always aliveness and a whole lot of awe.

 

This is the heartbeat of entrepreneurship.

Being Your Greatest Lover

Being Your Greatest Lover

With February in the air, I’m thinking about love.

 

And love, I’ve realized—through heartbreak—has to start with ourselves. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so how do we care for our bodies, minds, and emotions in a way that lets us show up fully?

 

Self-care, to me, is radical self-acceptance (and a little awe) for exactly where you are on your path, right now. Everything else—the massages, candles, a new cashmere sweater or lipstick—comes second, as a way to honor and adore the temple that is YOU.

 

Here’s a glimpse into the rhythms I follow—daily, weekly, monthly, and seasonally—to attune inward, nurture myself, and stay aligned with my own energy. Life is always a journey of moving in and out of the light, of falling off course and steering back to center. So, how do we strengthen our center so that it’s always locatable when we need it most?

 

I hope this inspires a rhythm or two you can weave into your own life—especially as momentum begins to pick up with the Year of the Horse starting February 17th.

DAILY

 

Movement is non-negotiable. I start Mondays with a 3 mile run, followed by mid-week quick 5-20 minute yoga and pilates sessions on the Melissa Wood Health app. Sometimes, after work I’ll take a walk around the neighborhood. Weekends are for getting out into nature with a long solo hike or bike ride out to the ocean.

 

Always sipping on something! I drink about 88oz of filtered water a day (committed to my Berkey for fluoride removal) and use an LMNT electrolyte packet every other day or so, especially after a workout. I end just about every day with a glass of magnesium. I cut caffeine four years ago, but herbal teas, decaf cold brew (Wandering Bear if you haven’t tried!), decaf iced oat milk lattes, and reishi hot chocolate are daily little luxuries.

 

Heat and grounding. Microwaveable beanbags might not win style awards, but they are miraculous for sore muscles, cramps, or just relaxing. My sister gifted me a weighted vest for Christmas, which I discovered also works brilliantly as a grounding tool between calls or after yoga. I even napped in it once too! And my weighted blanket is nice a touch substitute—especially because I live alone. You can always curl up in one and feel so held.

 

Pacing my energy. As a Manifesting Generator, my energy surges fast. Staying aligned means listening to my body and intuition, taking micro-breaks—a 15-minute nap, 10-minute walk, or 5-minute meditation—before starting a new project. It’s a small practice that was hard to begin but pacing myself has had a huge impact on my capacity, otherwise I can totally get misaligned and wonder what happened.

 

Food with intention. I’ve been gluten and dairy free for 15 years now so eat paleo-ish most of the time; high protein, a carb here and there, and lots of veggies. Lunch is always a giant salad plus protein—tuna, chicken, steak, bacon, or hard-boiled eggs. Followed by a few squares of dark chocolate because balance, right?

 

Supplements. Working with a naturopath over the years has me dialed into a supplement routine that supports my autoimmune thyroid disorder (Hashimoto’s) and overall energy sensitivity. I take ten different things a day—at least on the days I can stomach them all—I won’t bore you with the specifics since they aren’t universal but happy to share more if you want the specifics.

 

Rebooting the face. Before I apply my morning face creams, I will use my jade roller to perk myself up. And on days I need an extra zing, I will apply my potions and lotions and then grab my ice roller out of the freezer to really zap myself awake.

 

Gratitude journaling & daily readers. I don’t always pull out my gratitude journal but I find it super helpful to do whenever I need an energy shift. I also turn to The Artist’s Way Every Day or Journey to the Heart daily readers for short grounding messages or inspiration, especially when feeling low.

 

Digesting, reflecting, and contemplating. As a highly sensitive person, and someone who holds space for others in the work that I do, this is a daily must. I journal intuitively throughout the day: tracking energy patterns, jotting stream-of-consciousness notes, exploring challenges, or clarifying desires.

 

My journal is a mashup of the limiting beliefs I’m challenging, the relationship dynamics I’m navigating, the energy patterns that are unfolding, and the desires I’m learning to be honest about and trust.

 

I use my personal Human Design, astrology, and Gene Keys charts as guides. They speak the same language and give me a framework to let curiosity wander, map my experiences, and deepen my self-awareness.

WEEKLY

 

Face masks & body scrub. I love indulging in a face mask and body scrub when I take a bath.

 

Painting my nails. Every Monday after my run and shower, painting my nails is a grounding act. It settles me into my own energy and fuels me for a creative day before client work starts on Tuesdays.

 

Red light therapy. Post-hike, I hop into my sauna blanket for nervous-system-level relaxation. Adding the face mask really forces me to fully drop in. You can use code: JILLIANBREMER for 15% off.

 

Somatic check-ins. A couple nights a week, I tune into where I’m holding tension and gently massage pressure points with body oil—around my ears, hips, or thighs—to reset my vagus nerve and release stress.

 

Guided meditation. Not daily, but I use meditations on Insight Timer (Sarah Blondin is a fave) or To Be Magnetic Daily Imaginings when I need a reset. I’ve noticed I thrive with mini daily resets in silence rather than long meditation sessions. I also love popping on a Spotify playlist to match my energy when I need to let things flow.

 

Learning & expanding. I read about a book a month these days and listen to 2-3 podcasts. I used to consume way more but decided to shift more energy towards creating rather than consuming last year. After a while it just feels like everyone is saying the same thing in different ways, which is great when you need the inspiration but not as a replacement for actually doing the thing.

 

Oracle cards for guidance. I pull Oracle cards for guidance when feeling unsure or needing perspective. I will ask a question, and see what card flies out while I shuffle the deck. I trust that whatever it is is the message I most need to hear. It’s usually pretty validating and boosts my trust that I’m exactly where I need to be in my process.

MONTHLY

 

Floral remedies. I recently have been experimenting with the Alexis Smart remedies based on whatever emotion I’m working through at the moment and have found them beyond profound. When I took the unburden for a month, it helped release so much— both tears and insights. Right now I’m using Ganesh to help bolster confidence.

 

Artist dates. Doing the things that light you up! I love antiquing, shopping, museum exhibits, enjoying a salad out with a side of fries, and aim for a couple of fun things each month—no output required. And sometimes it’s simpler, like coloring or painting at home.

 

New Moon & Full Moon Practices. I set intentions with the new moon and release on the full moon, aligned with the signs and houses in my personal chart. Revisiting journals from past months helps me track patterns and notice subconscious dynamics I might otherwise miss. There’s also something deeply awe-inspiring about this practice—realizing that you are always supported by something bigger than yourself.

 

SEASONALLY

 

Key astrological transits. I don’t usually track collective astrology—it’s too confusing to keep up with both the collective and my own personal weather.

 

Instead, I focus on my personal transits using The Pattern app. It’s invaluable for understanding the seasonal energy waves in my chart, which often last 6 to 9 months and can feel like intense weather patterns you’re not used to. The You → Impacting You Now section shows if you’re moving through an impactful transit, and how it’s influencing your natal chart.

 

Being aware of these patterns helps me navigate them with more clarity and humility. Right now, Jupiter is conjunct my Sun in Cancer in the 8th house, igniting my drive for transformational connection like never before and man do I feel it!

 

Lion’s Gate Portal (8/8). Every year on this date is like a little cosmic glimpse into your future. I always love to write down the feelings and visions I perceive around this time as it’s a powerful energy for manifesting.

 

Tarot pull for the year. My friend did this for her birthday one year to note a theme for each month of the next year and I loved the idea so I pulled a card for every month of 2026 and snapped a photo of it on my phone to reference as the months play out. January, as the Queen of Cups was spot on, with deep emotional clarity quietly arriving in waves.

 

Numerical Signature for your year. On my birthday, I like to note which numerological year I’m entering—from 1 to 9. Right now, I’m in a 1 year, all about new beginnings and fresh energy. In July, I’ll move into a 2 year, focused on relationships, receptivity, and connection.

 

Vision boarding. I update the vision board in my office once or twice a year. I love mixing images with words—focusing less on grand dreaming and more on how I want to feel, how I want to live, and what that actually looks like in my day-to-day life.

 

There is no teacher, no voice, greater than your own. Other people can support us but they can’t be our source. We have to be our greatest lovers. Because self-love tells the universe: I am worthy of love, I deserve success, I am ready to receive fully, even through my doubts and fears.

 

Much love to you all! I’d love to hear—what self-love practices are supporting you right now? Share in the comments so we can inspire one another.

3 Practical Ways To Use Human Design

3 Practical Ways To Use Human Design

Human Design is an endless well of wisdom—but here’s the thing: most of us don’t need more information, we need ways to actually use it—so we can stop overworking, overthinking, and overgiving, and start enjoying life more.

 

At its core, Human Design gives us permission to step outside the boxes and expectations others place on us—and be the unique person we were born to be. It’s not literal; it’s about noticing where your energy flows, where it gets stuck, and learning to trust it. That’s how you find your rhythm, even when the rest of the world is off doing its own thing.

 

After I closed Sweet & Spark, I reconnected with Human Design and my own energy patterns. I realized that strategy, hard work, and perfection can only take you so far. Internal alignment—not struggle—is the key to ease, fulfillment, and sustainable momentum. Now, that’s worth reading twice.

 

These are the three parts of a chart I like to dial in on first. I’ll use my own chart as an example to bring this to life, but you can pull your chart for free here and follow along.

 

1. Energy Type-> Think of this as your main needs

 

There are five energy types in Human Design and yours shows how your life force moves in the world—not what you’re “here to do,” but how you’re designed to engage with life.

 

  • Are you meant to respond, initiate or wait?

  • How do you regulate your energy to prevent burnout?

  • How do you feel when you try to move in ways that aren’t natural for you?

I’m a Manifesting Generator, which is a hybrid of two types and about 35% of the population. That means:

 

  • As a Generator, I generate sustainable life force energy when I respond to what lights me up: emails, beautiful finds, yummy food, ideas that feel alive, interesting people I meet.

  • Then, as a Manifestor, when something clicks into place I can move fast through action and multi-tasking.

What I’ve learned is that if I try to make things happen without generating good feelings first, I can get misaligned quickly. I can also get stuck manifesting something that no longer excites me because I’ve invested so much effort—so I’ve had to learn how to quit with grace. The biggest ‘aha’ for sustaining my energy has been carving out dedicated time to integrate in between meetings and projects- like a 10 minute walk, 15 minute shut eye or 5 minute grounding.

 

Quick energy check-in: Where are you giving too much, or not enough? What do you actually need to pace yourself?

 

2. Authority -> Think of this as your relationship with your intuition

 

In Human Design, your Authority is your decision making style and there are seven different types. I like to think of this element as how your intuition communicates with you. Some people know things instantly. Some need time to feel. Some need to talk it out. Some need something to respond to. Some need a strong pull.

 

I have a Sacral authority, which is about 35% of the population. My intuition speaks to me in black and white: if it isn’t a hell yes, it’s a no or not right now. Here’s how I work with mine:

 

  • I ask myself yes/no questions: “Do I want to say this or that?”

  • I break things into bite-size pieces to respond to.

  • I go back and forth, testing responses, until I feel alignment.

If I skip ahead and try to go faster, my energy feels scattered, and I make decisions that don’t feel clear and end up showing in the results.

Quick check-in: How are you listening to your intuition today? How can you treat it like a trusted friend and strengthen your relationship to it?

 

3. Incarnation Cross -> Think of this as your signature energy

 

This is my all-time favorite element of Human Design because it’s the most specific. There are 192 different Incarnation Crosses, each made up of your four greatest gifts, and it gives a lens into your life’s purpose—how your energy is designed to show up and contribute to the world.

 

This signature is like the archetype or ‘costume’ your most authentic self is here to wear to make an impact. Some themes are about generating creative tension, some about embodiment, acceptance, leadership, movement, change, or sharing—each chart has a unique flavor that shows how you bring value to the world.

 

This is the internal identity you’re calibrating (read more about manifesting from your authentic self vs. ego here).

 

Mine is the Right Angle Cross of Tension 2 (39/38 | 21/48). It’s about noticing when things are out of alignment by naming patterns in a way that inspires growth. My four greatest gifts play out like this:

 

  • 39: sparking aliveness and freedom

  • 38: standing up for what I believe in

  • 21: owning my personal authority

  • 48: being an endless well of wisdom

These gifts define my values—freedom, authenticity, depth—and drive the work I do as a creative, coach, writer, and speaker.

 

Quick check-in: Where are you living in alignment with your signature energy? Where are you holding back?

 

Human Design isn’t about perfection. It’s about learning to notice your energy, letting things go, saying no, trying new things, and following what lights you up—while setting boundaries to make room for your authentic self to shine even brighter.

 

Pulling your chart is a great first step, but sometimes having a guide to help you see how it actually shows up in your life can make all the difference. If you ever want to dive into a 1:1 chart reading together, I’m here to help you explore your energy, patterns, and gifts more clearly.

 

I’m so grateful for all our unique quirks, curiosities, and all the energy that makes this movie of life so rich, fascinating, and full of wonder!

Found & Felt Vol. 2

Found & Felt Vol. 2

This edit leans a little aspirational—some ideas I’m flagging to take into spring as new arrivals start to hit our inboxes. I’m not a luxury shopper who buys new; I much prefer vintage or secondhand—pieces that have character, craftsmanship, and feel worth the price.

 

But I do love scrolling luxury designer sites for eye candy and inspiration, especially after work while I let my day settle. It’s so relaxing to let your eye wander without thought and maybe save a beautiful find or two.

  1. Secondhand Zimmerman Dress

    I love their slinky knit dresses and tops—it’s a saved search of mine on TRR. I pulled my favorite dress out for a creatives brunch at Shira Gill’s last week! This dress, along with this top, are both such good finds too.

  2. Vintage Birthstone Ring

    The one I shared last week sold fast! This one is fun in multicolors. I’m not sure if it’s still a thing, but they used to be “mother’s rings,” filled with the different birthstones of their children.

  3. Ilia Blush Stick

    Loving this warm nude shade for winter. I usually go for blue-toned blushes, but this time of year, a warmer shade is bringing my skin alive. Crazy how updating one element of your make-up routine can shift the whole mood.

  4. Ursa Major Alpine Rich Cream

    This thicker cream feels and smells like a winter luxury—and it’s perfect for slathering on your hands (and feet) before bed, too.

  5. Margaux Flats

    I’m a huge Margaux fan, and these are my first pair of Fonteyn flats. The slightly pointed toe feels grown-up and modern. The chocolate brown suede is so rich in color and texture, and is my favorite neutral right now.

  6. Tod’s Bag

    This buttery yellow mini Tod’s bag is just irresistible. I love the relaxed, lived in pebbled leather. Would you wear a pastel yellow bag? It’s an unusual shade—soft but still a statement—and that draws me in.

  7. Hunter Bell Wrap Skirt

    This geo-printed skirt has inspired me to try a mini skirt soon—something that works now with sheer tights, and carries into the rest of the year with bare legs and sandals/sneakers or over-the-knee boots. This one fits that vision perfectly! I love the embroidered linen—it feels so special.

  8. Isabel Marant Sweater

    The icy color of this cashmere sweater is tricky to get right, which is why I pinned it for inspiration when shopping for pink sweaters. A shade can easily veer too sweet or feel early-2000s if you know what I mean. This is a lower priced option.

  9. Vintage Goyard Mini

    I love the size of this little shopper and the punchy color. A blue bag is definitely on my list this year! I’ve found it wears like a neutral.

  10. Twill Coat

    Speaking of blue, I’ve never seen a blue twill barn coat before—I fell in love with it. The chocolate brown corduroy collar adds an elevated touch for the price.

  11. Vintage Beaded Pendant Necklace

    Dark beaded necklaces are perfect in winter. Would you wear this with a tee, denim button down, turtleneck sweater, or a blazer? It feels special with its dreamy 18kt gold coin pendant. Something to remember, the higher the karat, the richer the gold color.

If you want more eye candy, check out my recent vintage and new finds on Shopmy.

The 12 Human Design Profiles

The 12 Human Design Profiles

Creation doesn’t come alive the same way for everyone.

 

We think clarity should arrive before action. We think desire should feel good. We think speed equals alignment. We think readiness will feel certain. We think effort creates the same result for everyone.

 

But these assumptions quietly disconnect us from our unique process of manifestation.

 

I was out antiquing with a girlfriend recently and noticed our styles, processes, and priorities were completely different. I knew exactly what I wanted and went straight for it; if it wasn’t there, I was done. She wandered, imagined, and rearranged possibilities, dreaming about her space in real time. It piqued my curiosity — how do we better understand our own unique process?

 

Aliveness moves differently through nervous systems. We get stuck, discouraged, or confused when we try to copy someone else’s way of creating or follow formulas too closely.

 

We watch someone else move faster, publish sooner, or feel more certain — and suddenly our own process feels wrong. “Too slow”. “Too messy”. “Too late”. So we rush or freeze. Or abandon altogether what was quietly bubbling up inside us.

 

Your Human Design profile explains how you come alive and what happens when you’re looking in the wrong place or avoiding your unique growth edge. The 12 profiles determine:

 

  • When clarity comes — before or after action

  • What blocks manifestation — friction, waiting, or avoidance

  • How the universe tests your will — friction that pushes growth

  • What comes alive — who you’re becoming

I’ve had the honor of working with all 12 profiles. Here’s what I’ve noticed, how to keep energy moving, and why I love working with them.

THE PROFILES:

 

1/3 – The Establisher of Truth & Knowledge:

 

I’ve observed that 1/3s often hesitate to begin—not because they lack drive, but because they need something solid to test. Once they give themselves permission to research and run mini experiments, they build with remarkable depth and precision. I love working with them because they turn lived exploration into something real, and geeking out on all they’ve uncovered is endlessly inspiring.

 

  • Clarity Enters: Through research that is immediately applied, tested, and integrated through time bound, real-world experiments.

  • Biggest Block: Trying to prevent failure instead of letting it refine them. “If I study enough, I won’t make mistakes.” Otherwise, they delay starting, over-research, and end up feeling behind.

  • Universe Test: “Will you keep going after discovering what doesn’t work?”

  • What Comes Alive: Strong foundations, embodied security, and work that is tangible and can be trusted.

     

1/4 – The Omniscient Teacher:

 

I’ve observed that 1/4s have big hearts, natural influence, and a genuine love for people and movement. When they feel safe to open up, they’re incredibly warm, magnetic, and trustworthy. I love them because they remind me that stability and impact don’t come from isolation—they come from belonging.

 

  • Clarity Enters: Through intellectual certainty combined with feedback from a trusted inner circle.

  • Biggest Block: Waiting instead of leveraging their relationships. “If I know enough, opportunities will find me.” Otherwise, their influence stays dormant — and they feel unseen or underutilized.

  • Universe Test: “Will you share what you know before it feels perfected?”

  • What Comes Alive: Sustainable influence, grounded confidence, and opportunities that move through people rather than being chased alone.

 

2/4 – The Easy Breezy Genius:

 

I’ve observed that 2/4s often want to be seen for what comes naturally to them without having to actively step forward. They have real, effortless gifts —and when they take responsibility and do the thing they feel called to with focus, they come alive. I love them because when their gifts are expressed, they’re genuinely delightful, creative, and fun to be around.

 

  • Clarity Enters: Through recognition and invitation from others, not self-initiated clarity.

  • Biggest Block: Hiding their gifts and waiting to be discovered. “If it’s meant for me, I won’t have to engage.” Otherwise, their talents stay hidden and they feel frustrated without knowing why.

  • Universe Test: “Will you respond when life knocks — even if it interrupts your comfort?”

  • What Comes Alive: Playful creativity, natural mastery, and connection that feels effortless rather than forced.

 

2/5 – The Reluctant Hero:

 

I’ve noticed that 2/5s carry natural gifts and talents that are obvious to others — but they rarely own them fully on their own. They can be highly inspiring, expansive, and visionary, and when they speak up, their confidence and mastery becomes visible to the world. I love them because when they step fully into their natural power, it’s magnetic, rewarding, and energizing to witness their transformation.

 

  • Clarity Enters: Through recognition from others — they often only see the full power of what they can do when someone calls it out or invites them in.

  • Biggest Block: Resisting others projections or trying to control how they’re seen. “People should just see what I can do.” Otherwise, they become guarded and controlling, which quietly cuts off real impact.

  • Universe Test: “Will you step in when you’re invited — even if it feels risky?”

  • What Comes Alive: Natural talent and leadership that creates meaningful impact and expansive expression.

     

3/5 – The Great Life Experimenter:

 

I’ve noticed they are independent and experimental, but can burn out when they take on too much responsibility. They thrive when given space to explore their own ideas and focus on the problems they want to solve. I love them because their awareness of the gap between “here” and “there” fuels growth and creates productive tension to stay committed to an ever evolving trial and error process.

 

  • Clarity Enters: Through direct experience and friction- hey only know by doing.

  • Biggest Block: Trying to be certain before acting, or following what others expect instead of testing things for themselves. “I should know before I try.” Otherwise, they burn out, lose confidence, and disconnect from their own momentum.

  • Universe Test: “Will you stick with what you’re building without outside validation and even after it breaks?”

  • What Comes Alive: They become innovators, problem-solvers, and wise guides who show others what’s possible by doing.

 

3/6 – The Living Contrast:

 

I’ve noticed they need time and space to digest experiences from a big-picture perspective before moving forward. They experiment to find their vision—it’s not enough to just imagine it; they need to explore, test, talk things through, and integrate. I love working with them because their long-term vision is inspiring, and when they commit to their timeline, they build something that has depth, clarity, and endurance.

 

  • Clarity Enters: Through lived experience, reflection, and integrating the lessons from trial and error over time.

  • Biggest Block: Judging early attempts instead of learning from them. “I should have it figured out by now.” Otherwise, they rush clarity, doubt their timing, or walk away from something that needed more time to mature.

  • Universe Test: “Can you trust the process even when clarity comes later?”

  • What Comes Alive: Visionary insight and strategic wisdom; the ability to hold space for the long game and guide others with perspective.

     

4/6 – The Regal Authority:

 

I’ve noticed they are deeply committed to connection and community. They prefer steady, aligned growth over abrupt change and are loyal, reliable, and inspiring to those around them. I love them because they make the world warmer and more connected and reach new heights when they’re clear about what they’re building with others.

 

  • Clarity Enters: Through trusted relationships and consistent feedback from their community.

  • Biggest Block: Clinging to connections that no longer serve their growth. “If it’s right, everyone will come with me.” Otherwise, growth slows, leadership softens, and resentment quietly builds while keeping the peace.

  • Universe test: “Will you let go of connections that keep you small?”

  • What Comes Alive: Embodied relational leadership—creating impact through loyalty, community, and influence, rather than solo achievement.

     

4/1 – The Bonus Life:

 

I notice they are grounded in their own perspective and crave stability. They know what they want to build and are committed to doing it their way. I love them for their conviction and creativity.

 

  • Clarity Enters: Through internal conviction. Once they know, they know.

  • Biggest Block: Rigidity or fear of destabilization—worrying that adapting means losing control or integrity. “Once I choose, I can’t change.” Otherwise, they contract inward, cutting off growth and connection.

  • Universe test: “Will you stand in your truth even if it isolates you?”

  • What Comes Alive: Embodied, steady leadership—creating lasting impact through consistency, vision, and principled action.

     

5/1 – The Challenge Solver:

 

I notice they are passionate about solving big problems and mastering systems, but they often overextend themselves, taking on responsibility for everyone else instead of focusing on their own mastery. They have powerful ideas and perspectives, that come to life when they give themselves permission to act and build. I love working with them because when they step fully into their skillset, they create practical, high-impact solutions that actually move things forward.

 

  • Clarity Enters: Through studying, mastering, and applying systems that solve real problems.

  • Biggest Block: Over-responsibility and people-pleasing; not prioritizing their own mastery or direction. “If I fix it, I’ll be appreciated.” Otherwise, energy gets scattered, authority is never claimed, and growth stalls.

  • Universe Test: “Will you stop saving everyone at your own expense and focus on what only you can build?”

  • What Comes Alive: Leadership through mastery and applied knowledge; they step into authority when they focus on their own expertise instead of trying to control or fix everything around them.

     

5/2 – The Self-Motivated Hero:

 

I notice they have a natural ability to see solutions and fix problems, but they often doubt their power because it comes easily. They tend to wait for external recognition before fully stepping into their influence. I love working with them because they effortlessly attract the right people and opportunities to them, making leadership look desirable.

 

  • Clarity Enters: When their natural gift is recognized and requested by others.

  • Biggest Block: Over-promoting themselves instead of trusting that the right people will come to them. “I need to prove I’m capable.” Otherwise, they overlook the right opportunities and scatter their energy.

  • Universe test: “Will you trust that the right people will find you?”

  • What Comes Alive: Authentic, magnetic leadership—able to create impact effortlessly when aligned with demand and resonance.

     

6/2 – The Exemplary Human:

 

I notice they carry big visions and a sense of purpose, but can hesitate to show up fully because they don’t yet trust their natural gifts. When they align with their timing and allow their gifts to develop and emerge naturally, they become deeply inspiring. I love how big their dreams are and how effortlessly they bring them alive creativity when they give themselves the space to play.

 

  • Clarity Enters: Through observation, reflection, and emotional distance—learning from life before stepping fully into action.

  • Biggest Block: Forcing expression too early or trying to rush the process. “I should be visible before I feel ready.” Otherwise, they pull back, stall their growth, and feel disconnected from their natural gifts.

  • Universe test: “Will you honor your timing instead of rushing?”

  • What Comes Alive: Wise, inspiring leadership rooted in authenticity and timing, where impact flows naturally from their aligned gifts.

     

6/3 – The Responsible Adventurer:

 

I notice they move steadily through chaos, taking in life’s lessons before taking action. When they honor their process, and break their vision down into steps, they transform experience into wisdom, strength, and guidance for others. I love them because they bring aspirational visions to life in a realistic way.

 

  • Clarity Enters: Through cycles of lived experience across life phases, learning from trial, error, and reflection.

  • Biggest Block: Feeling shame or regret over past ‘failures’ instead of using them as fuel for growth. “I should be past the chaos by now.” Otherwise, they drain their energy, get stuck, and lose confidence in their ability to move forward.

  • Universe test: “Will you trust that nothing was wasted?”

  • What Comes Alive: Wise, resilient leadership that blends experience, insight, and authenticity—able to guide with steadiness and vision.

 

Every profile carries its own tension — that edge where clarity, creation, and manifestation meet resistance. Leaning into that tension, moving through blocks, and honoring your timing is what allows your aliveness to emerge and your creations to thrive.

 

As a 3/5, I’ve lived this firsthand: I get stuck if I don’t give myself room to experiment, and I burn out if I try to test too many things at once. My mind tries to protect me — “you should know before you try,” “don’t show this messy process.” But clarity for me, doesn’t come from avoiding the unknown. It comes through doing, feeling, failing, and returning. When I honor that tension, I create work that is not only useful but truly alive.

 

How do you transform creative tension?

Found & Felt Vol. 1

Found & Felt Vol. 2

Introducing a new series of finds—a round-up of both vintage and new—that have caught my eye and sparked my thinking lately. This is an evolution of the much-loved weekly vintage unboxings I used to do for my shop.

 

When I first started this Substack, I experimented with a few vintage edits, but something felt off. So I paused.

 

What became clear is that in both the new and vintage worlds, I’m drawn to collecting things in the same way. I don’t curate for a particular vibe. I stop when something catches my eye and feels practical for my taste, lifestyle, and closet.

 

A little of this and a little of that—piece by piece—a point of view emerges and evolves.

Here’s to a clearer intention. One that’s feeling really good to share with you!

  1. Sézane Red Cable Sweater

    Cable sweaters are classic, but they’re often so bulky they swallow me. I love the shorter proportions of this one—and especially the idea of a red cable. You don’t see that very often.

  2. H&M Blue Mohair Sweater

    This reminded me of a blue mohair sweater I have from a few years ago that always gets compliments. This shade of blue is my favorite for January, especially with black.

  3. Secondhand La Ligne Striped Sweater

    I’ve been on the hunt for colorful stripes and love this older La Ligne one from TRR. I’m also drawn to this slouchy style and this cardigan. Having a moment for pastels paired with contrast too.

  4. J.Crew Rollneck Sweater

    I’ve been meaning to try this iconic sweater and noticed they launched a new navy and white version. There’s something so clean, refreshing, and timeless about nautical stripes this time of year with dark denim.

  5. H&M Brown Puffer

    I can confirm this one is a winner. I love the gold zipper and front pockets (perfect for holding my phone while cruising around the city). Lightweight with a nice, swingy fit. I went with my normal size small.

  6. COS Pink Puffer

    The rose color is what stopped me here. But the style feels modern, relaxed, and easy to wear.

  7. Nili Lotan Brown Belt

    I’ve learned that great basics are the foundation of easy outfitting. After realizing how much I love chocolate brown in every category, I finally pulled the trigger on this belt. The width and classic gold buckle feel just right. This one would be great if you’re wanting a little glam.

  8. Gap Leopard Barrel Jeans

    Another recent win. These are on major sale and I’m excited to wear them with red, dark denim, cream, and grey. I went with the 26 short and they are TTS. I can say, this twill pair fits great too.

  9. Vintage Hermès Cashmere Scarf

    On my splurge list this year: a colorful Hermès cashmere scarf, I love how the black grounds this vibrant print and really makes it pop. Speaking of Hermès, this silk scarf from 2008 is also alive and well in my brain.

  10. Vintage YSL Brooch

    Brooches are having a moment, and personally I’m a bit exhausted by them but the sculptural shape of this YSL piece is really chic.

  11. Vintage Ruby Ring

    I always keep an eye on colored gems. I love the oval rubies and diamonds in this stacked ring—substantial enough to wear on its own every day.

  12. Vintage Beaded Ring

    A great stacking style to add interest to statement gold rings. Someday I’d love a colorful stone eternity band.

If you want more eye candy, I updated my recent vintage and new finds on Shopmy.

Manifestation Moves At The Speed of Safety

Manifestation Moves At The Speed Of Safety

Some people seem to manifest with speed and ease. They get clear on their desires, think positively, take action and then things move quickly.

 

Others do everything “right” and experience long stretches of recalibration instead. Small things trickle in here and there, but not the momentum manifestation teachings often promise.

 

What I’ve come to see is that this isn’t about effort or worthiness. It’s about what a desire asks of your identity.

 

Most manifestation frameworks are built around identity expansion: add confidence, add belief, add visibility. Know who you are and become even more of it.

 

There’s another stage that rarely gets named: identity recalibration. This isn’t about becoming more of who you already are. It’s about dismantling who you’ve been so you can hold what you’re actually calling in. And that takes patience, practice, and devotion.

 

Some people are oriented toward results.
How fast can I grow? Did I get the thing?

 

Others are oriented toward authenticity.
Who am I? Can I hold this without losing myself?

 

These are very different desires — each unfolding on its own timeline and requiring different emotional capacities.

 

There are also moments where a leap is the recalibration. A clean move that organizes reality because it’s congruent with who you’re becoming. The difference is whether action stabilizes your center….or replaces it.

 

Speed often correlates with how little identity needs to change. When a desire doesn’t threaten the nervous system, attachment patterns, or self-concept, manifestation looks effortless. But when old patterns are being cleared and authority is being reorganized internally, slowness is part of the process.

 

So if manifestation feels slow right now, you’re not failing. You’re narrowing and focusing — training your system to receive without self-betrayal or external reward.

 

During identity recalibration, reality responds with fewer “wins” but they’re cleaner and more specific. Instead of rapid expansion, you may notice subtle confirmations, precise opportunities, or movement that arrives with ease. The process is teaching discernment, boundaries, and a deeper sense of self-worth.

 

Identity recalibration isn’t cognitive. It’s nervous-system work. It moves at the pace your body needs to feel safe holding power without collapsing or leaking it. That can take months and sometimes years. Until your system feels secure, speed would be destabilizing.

 

But eventually, manifestation will stop being a strategy at all — reality will respond effortlessly to who you are, because you know who you are.

Outfits For Life In Motion

Outfits For Life In Motion

For a long time, I focused on getting dressed for work. That’s where I put my creative energy and sense of expression. Everything else—working out, running errands, walking the city, being at home—fell into vague categories like “workout clothes” or “loungewear,” filling drawers with mismatched, oversized, and random pieces.

 

But these moments outside of work for regulation, matter just as much. They’re the quiet way we take care of ourselves so we can show up in the world grounded, willing, and able to pour from a full cup.

 

Each of these outfits is about how I want to feel in my body as I move through my week: calming my nervous system, grounding my energy, building strength, easing in, and exhaling.

 

1. Weekend Errands- Lived In Expression

Sweater/ Jacket/ Leggings/ Sneakers/ Sunnies

My weekend rhythm is farmers markets, antiquing, wandering neighborhoods, and whatever unfolds in between. I never get “ready” in the traditional sense—no makeup, or jewelry—but I still like to feel expressive in a relaxed, lived-in way.

 

This is where I remix my wardrobe: taking pieces I’d wear during the week and softening them for the weekend. The expression stays, but it’s more casual.

 

For me, that looks like wide-leg sweater pants or Lululemon Align leggings (I have them in everything from neutrals to pastels to bright colors), a favorite sweater, Adidas, and soon to be this chocolate brown puffer when it arrives. It also comes in cream and is surprisingly only $55!

 

2. Weekend Hike- Nature’s Calm

Jacket/ Top/Leggings/ Sunnies/ Boots/ Backpack/ Socks

Hiking is how I shake off the week and come back home to myself. Nature always reminds me of calmness and simplicity.

 

I gravitate toward wearing softer, quieter colors here. Nothing too loud or distracting, just steady (and still me). I always wear the same hiking boots and bring my go-to backpack stocked with water, electrolytes, a snack, sunscreen, and layers.

 

My favorite long-sleeve top for hiking is from Lululemon, and I recently stocked up on these scrunch socks in all the neutrals. After having Lyme disease, covering my ankles and legs is a must. I also always love a sporty Patagonia jacket.

 

3. Monday Run- Strength

Jacket/ Top/ Leggings/ Sneakers/ Socks/ Sunnies

Running used to be a big part of my week. I ran a full marathon back in 2010, while I was working full-time in corporate, and it pushed me beyond what I thought was possible, which eventually led me to take the leap into entrepreneurship.

 

These days, I only run 3–5 miles a week but it’s still about strength. Trusting my body. Remembering what I’m capable of. And shaking off any stuck energy.

 

This time of year, I always reach for my Better Sweater fleece, a fitted long-sleeve top, and Nike running sneakers. I go for containment here—supportive, steady, and strong.

 

4. Post Work Walk- Ritual Comfort

Top/ Sweats/ Socks/ Sneakers/ Jacket/ Sunnies

A few days a week, I go for a walk after work as a ritual to ground and close out the workday. This is where I change into bigger, softer clothes. Sometimes I call family, sometimes I listen to a podcast, and sometimes I just walk in silence.

 

I always want comfort here, but I still want to feel like myself moving through the city. Barrel sweats have been perfect—substantial but relaxed. I’m obsessed with Patagonia fleeces at Reformation (especially this funky one, if only it was in stock). My all-time favorite walking shoes are New Balance 574s, and I’ve been refreshing my basics with Gap layering tees and a few pointelle styles for texture.

 

5. At Home Yoga Flow- Warmth & Gentleness

Yoga Mat/ Socks/ Joggers/ Tank/ Sweatshirt

I do short yoga and Pilates flows at home 2–3 times a week before work. They help me wake up gently and get energy moving but my apartment is chilly, so warmth is essential or I won’t do it.

 

I can’t believe this ¼-zip is from Old Navy—I grabbed it in chocolate brown and navy and immediately texted my girlfriends about it. It’s perfect for yoga and lounging. I’ll pair it with simple Beyond Yoga tanks (this color feels especially refreshing) or Alo Yoga ribbed bras. These Gap joggers in white have helped balance out all the the grey, navy, and black tops I own.

 

6. Lounging At Home- Exhaling

Stripe Top/ Jacket/ Sweats/ Socks/ Sneakers/ Turtleneck

Lounging at home is about full permission to let go. Oversized. Unrestrictive. Nothing too tight or overheating.

 

For a long time, this category was old hoodies and worn out sweats. I’m slowly investing in pieces that feel intentional. A striped rugby top with joggers or leggings. Swingy silhouettes that feel roomy. Boxy sweatshirts without hoods, tight cuffs or hems.

 

And cute socks always….because it’s the little things.

 

Here’s to staying in motion—and dressing for life that happens when no one’s watching.

Realistic Visions

Realistic Visions

I can’t tell you how many years I’ve been tied up in fantasy thinking—believing that if I worked harder, smarter, or faster, something magical would happen. And sometimes it did. But when big expansions were followed by big contractions, I would crumble, looking outside myself for proof or answers: Am I doing something wrong? Is this not my path? Maybe I can’t have what I want after all.

 

Working with business owners, I’ve realized it’s not usually a lack of vision that holds us back. Most of us are motivated by big dreams and a belief in what’s possible. We have high standards for ourselves, and we are fully committed to achieving them.

 

The challenge isn’t dreaming big—it’s building the capacity to hold what we actually want.

Big goals and strategy can take us far, but they don’t always give us lasting fulfillment. Sometimes getting the thing you wanted doesn’t always feel the way you imagined.

As thought leader Adam Grant says:

“The ultimate test of success is not whether you’re proud of what you’ve achieved. It’s whether you’re proud of who you’ve become.”

From my experience building multiple businesses, I now believe embodiment in each moment is the only path to true fulfillment. Happiness isn’t waiting at the finish line; it’s here and now, in the way we believe in each day.

 

So how do we balance our juicy visions with the present moment? How can we be honest about what needs to shift while also honoring what’s here to stay?

That’s the work of manifestation. It is not a linear process. When we call something fresh and new into our lives, we are always invited to let something go. The practice of manifestation is a dance between releasing old stories and living more fully into new ones that align with who we are becoming.

 

This past weekend, I made a vision board for 2026, with four words for the year. I chose words I can embody now.

 

Because the #1 law of the universe is like attracts like.

 

Nothing changes in our life until we change our energy. Living into fresh energy, owning it before the world mirrors it back to us, is the hardest part of manifestation. Authentic creation always starts with being, which inspires doing, and attracts having.

 

As I like to say:

“Manifesting is not about attracting what you want. It’s about awareness and understanding that you attract what you are.”

Here are the words I chose for 2026, along with the essence of what each means to me in this season of life and business:

 

  1. EXPRESSIVE – Sharing a feeling, perspective, or truth that invites connection, reflection, and a shift in energy.

  2. CARING – Moving through the world with compassion, and a desire for growth, transformation, and co-creation.

  3. DEVOTED– To my creative process, internal world, close loved ones, beauty, and wellness practices.

  4. EMBODIED – Fully present and comfortable in my body, moving at a pace that honors awareness, intention, and discernment in each moment.

Your turn! How do you want to feel this year? Would love to hear your words in the comments.

 

We can’t always count on magic appearing out of thin air, and fulfillment manifests when clear energy drives our goals. Here’s to embodying the life you are ready to hold!

 

If you’re a business owner seeking both a strategic and energetic container for your year, I invite you to work with me 1:1 through my annual Strategic Growth Path.

 

And if you’re local to the San Francisco Bay Area, there are 4 spots available for a vision boarding workshop with The Marin Merchant in Sausalito this Sunday, 1/11.

Refining Personal Style

Refining Personal Style

New Year, New You? Or more likely, you’re spending a little extra time this month reorienting back to yourself after the buzz of the holidays. That’s what I’m up to over here.

 

I’ve always cared about clothes, but more than anything, I’ve always wanted to feel comfortable in my own skin. It’s taken me a while to find a philosophy around personal style that actually reflects that.

 

I’m not interested in keeping up with trends, buying what everyone else has, or getting caught in the idea that I need more. The pressure to do those things is dense and for a long time, it distracted me from getting to know my own tastes and preferences more intimately.

 

I studied retail management in college and worked in the industry as a merchant, so style has always been part of my world. But what’s helped me the most in refining my own has been simply pulling out a rolling rack each season and playing.

 

I’ve been taking outfit snaps consistently for a few years now — not every day, but a few times a week — and they’ve been incredibly helpful. They allow me to zoom out and actually see how my personal style is evolving. I pulled together a few of my favorite outfits from 2025. My style isn’t necessarily aspirational, but I hope that by sharing my process, it can offer inspiration for tuning into what best suits your own energy and presence.

I admire people who know their preferences deeply while still staying open to trying new things. For me, styling is an enjoyable way to turn inward and explore that balance.

 

I love stylist Allison Bornstein’s 3-word method for defining personal style. I did the exercise a while back and landed on classic, cozy, and charming. But after reflecting on these photos, I was ready to refine them in hopes that they open me up to some new possibilities this year and guide future purchases with more intention.

 

So here’s what I came up with:

 

  • Grounded- Classic pieces are still the bones of my style, but what stood out to me this year was my reliance on dark neutrals as anchors. I’m drawn to contrast — light and dark — and to pieces with gravity, structure, and presence.

  • Lived in- This is about honoring reality with pieces that move, breathe, and feel comfortable and open. Some of my favorite looks came from simplicity and repetition.

  • Expressive- “Charm” is evolving for me from playful and sweet to more artful. I’m drawn to color and pieces with soul: florals with depth, color with weight, texture, special details.

What are your 3 style words? Do we overlap anywhere?

 

I also find it helpful to look at what isn’t working. It creates a useful filter for cleaning out your closet and letting go. These are my least favorite outfits from 2025. Looking at them, I see muted colors, off proportions, overly polished, conflicting expressions, and overly playful moments.

Restraint is the word that comes to mind when I think about creativity in 2026. I want to do and have less — but be and have more, with intention.

 

How about you?

2025 Reflections & Newly Embodied Wisdom

2025 Reflections & Newly Embodied Wisdom

They say some years are for asking questions, and others are for finding answers. I love this perspective because it reminds us that wants, desires, and wishes often can’t be rushed. It gives me permission to slowly deepen into what I love, a little more each year.

 

I’m hosting two New Year’s workshops—one virtually and one in-person—and as I’ve been preparing the journal prompts and content for each, I’ve been reflecting on the purpose of reflecting. Where is it that we are all trying to go, anyway?

 

Each year is full of unique experiences, contrasts, and challenges that help us know ourselves better and nudge us toward new possibilities. I find it fascinating that we all carry such rich stories, along with different desires that want to be met.

 

This year, I made the choice to close my vintage shop and step fully into my purpose as a coach, holding visions for others to fully step into. The transition reminded me that growth is never linear. Huge moments of expansion are often followed by contraction—and learning to hold both as signs of progress is where the real magic lives.

 

Here are the five universal truths 2025 instilled in me:

 

  1. Desire alone isn’t enough- capacity and reciprocity matter

Just because you want something- love, money, a new career- doesn’t mean you automatically have the capacity for it. When we open ourselves up to our wildest dreams, they can feel like a fantasy, but that doesn’t mean they’re impossible. Often, if we look close enough, there’s an invitation to break through our fears and build the capacity we need to hold more of our truth.

 

I started 2025 with a romantic heartbreak, and through processing the grief, I realized that true intimacy and meaningful exchange truly require shared energy, effort, and clear expectations. This was asked of me to refine in my work as well as I invite others into shared spaces in new ways.

 

  1. Transition is fertile, not linear

Claiming your autonomy means owning that you have the power to design your life however you’d like. Feeling stuck is often an invitation for change. Even though I loved my vintage shop and it was successful, I began to feel limited in the time and energy I could devote to each part of my work. I knew I was ready to focus on building something bigger.

 

Sometimes moving forward requires a step back. Transitions are uncomfortable because we’re shedding old ways of being before stepping into a new identity. Have you heard the saying, you don’t eat the fruit the day you plant the seed? I’m learning that means believing in yourself no matter what—so keep laying that foundation.

 

  1. You don’t have to try so hard to be shown, and held

In January, I signed up for a creative non-fiction writing class on a whim, and it set the direction for the entire year. Writing became a way to process my thoughts and feelings and slowly turn them into wisdom for others—something I’d always wanted to do but hadn’t known how to start. I’ve realized that finding your voice comes from using it and noticing how it threads together over time. This led to my first speaking engagement, followed organically by two more!

 

It also led to making significant investments—both time and money—into my coaching business strategy and branding. Working with others reminded me that strategy work cannot be rushed. The real value of support often comes from the container that holds you through an exploration process. I’m deeply grateful the experiences helped me figure out what I truly want to build next, giving me the confidence to move forward.

 

  1. Sometimes life meets you better than you could imagine

Going to Europe the summer I turned 40 wasn’t on my manifestation list—and that’s exactly the point. You don’t have to try so hard to make everything happen. Sometimes life surprises you in ways more generous and meaningful than you could ever plan for. Not everything needs to be earned, proven, or orchestrated. Here’s your friendly reminder to always stay open to receiving!

 

  1. Hope comes from staying with yourself

As an Enneagram 4, I feel everything deeply and can sense when things aren’t ideal. While this sensitivity fuels creativity, disappointment has also been one of my greatest teachers. After my breakup, I noticed I was sourcing hope from imagined futures that could heal the past, rather than tuning into what I truly needed in the present.

 

This year became a rewiring of sorts. I committed to not abandoning myself—no matter what. Whether exhausted, heartbroken, or terrified to share something true, I’ve learned that it’s only by choosing who we want to be in the present moment that can lead us to our future.

 

In the Chinese Zodiac, 2025 was the Year of the Snake—a time of shedding old identities and building quiet power, recalibrating internally before outer expansion. That surely resonates deeply with me. How about you? What have been your big themes from the year?

 

For me, 2025 laid the foundation for a sense of self-worth rooted in embodiment, not just in my mind. This feels drastically different from the faster-paced ways I’ve built things in the past, and I’m proud of the seeds I’ve planted.

 

The hope I hold for 2026 comes from the newly found clarity around what I authentically want and need, and honoring that truth with small, steady actions I trust will compound over time.

 

If you’re looking for a deeper container for reflection, I’d love to invite you to join my virtual intention setting workshop this Sunday, 1/4, where we’ll explore the energetic themes of 2026, revisit manifestation fundamentals, and move through a future-self meditation together. There will be space to release what you’re shedding and share intentions if you’d like—but there’s never any pressure. If you sign up, you’ll receive a workbook with guided journal prompts too.

 

For those local to the Bay Area, I’ll also be hosting an in-person vision-boarding workshop on Sunday, 1/11 at The Marin Merchant in Sausalito. I’d love to see you there.

 

Cheersing you to a fresh slate—and I’ll see you on the other side!

An Outerwear Study

An Outerwear Study

Buying winter outerwear is usually an investment—something you want in your wardrobe for years to come. It’s a category worth collecting, especially if you live in San Francisco, where layering is a year-round thing. Sometimes, when the fog rolls in thick, we even wear wool in the summer.

 

Shopping for coats online can feel overwhelming, especially with darker, heavier colors that hide all the details. I pulled all the coats I wear and love from my closet, experimented by creating outfits around them, and noticed certain details that make a coat work. Here’s a framework I’m going to use when I’m shopping for this category in the future:

 

1. Fit & Proportion

  • Lapel size and shape: Sharp or rounded? This sets the presence of the coat and influences how it looks on your body.

  • Chest opening: How open is it? This affects layering and practicality.

  • Shoulder and sleeve construction: Traditional, raglan, or drop shoulder? This changes how the coat fits over sweaters and how polished it feels.

  • Collar length: Where does the collar end? For shorter frames, avoid open necklines that drop below the waist.

  • Coat length: I prefer mid-thigh for shorter coats, just above the knee for longer styles, and full-length only when I want a dressier vibe or am somewhere cold.

2. Fabric & Warmth

  • Fabric weight: This affects both drape and warmth.

  • Texture and richness: I like fabrics with a subtle texture or speckle—they instantly feel more luxurious.

3. Details & Finishing Touches

  • Buttons: Color, size, and placement matter—they can elevate a coat.

  • Sleeve details: Can they be rolled? Do they have buttons? Small details make a big difference.

  • Other accents: Pockets, stitching, and lining all add character and functionality.

4. Style & Attitude

  • Think about the overall vibe: casual, polished, statement-making, modern, or dressy. Consider how it layers with your existing wardrobe and the mood you want it to convey.

Here’s a closer look at my winter coat collection, excluding casual puffers and sherpa— that category needs an overhaul before it’s worthy of sharing!

Grey Coat, Red Coat, Brown Jacket

The jacket I reach for the most is my double faced wool jacket from Mango because it has incredible drape. I own it both in black and a lighter color (that’s sadly not available anymore) and wear it in SF year round. I really love that they released it in a chocolate brown color this year. If you try it just make sure to size down.

 

I’d love a red coat some day too, this longer one is also so so good! And Alexa Buckley Roussel now has me dreaming of a red trench for spring.

Vintage Coat

This vintage camel hair coat from the 1950s or ’60s was gifted to me by my former business partner and something I’ll treasure forever. The fit and the details are exceptional—the thicker stitching on the collar, the belt, the sleeve buttons. They truly don’t make them like they used to!

Brown Collarless Coat, Light Fur Coat, Pink Fur Coat, Multi Fur Coat, Brown Fur Coat

Anytime I wear my pink faux‑fur jacket, I get compliments. Can you believe it’s old H&M? I’ve had it for years and still love it. A faux‑fur coat is always fun this time of year—whether for dressier occasions or everyday wear.

Vintage Theory Coat

Vintage and secondhand outerwear is one of my favorite categories to shop, especially on The RealReal. There are so many incredible options, and once you know what you like, outerwear becomes surprisingly timeless. This isn’t a category you need to constantly refresh. It’s more about finding pieces that fit beautifully and align with your personal vibe.

 

I found this Theory jacket at a consignment shop in San Francisco a couple of weekends ago and love the fit. The collar is a thick sweater material that pulls up around the neck for extra coziness, and the shiny buttons give it a slightly dressier feel.

Stone Coat, Tan Coat, Herringbone Coat, Black Coat

This grey double‑breasted coat from J.Crew has been in my closet since 2018. I don’t reach for it often because it’s more fitted than the others, but when it works, it really works. I like having a polished, traditional option in my collection for when that’s the whole vibe.

Vintage Max Mara Coat, Max Mara Coat

You’ve already heard me rave about this vintage Max Mara cashmere coat I found on The RealReal a couple of months ago—but I’m obsessed. I’ve always wanted a Max Mara coat for the fit and fabric. The sleeve construction is unlike anything else, sewn under the arm so it feels relaxed and incredibly comfortable. It’s an investment, new or vintage, but one I know I’ll have for years.

 

And color‑wise, I can’t believe it took me this long to own a chocolate brown coat. It goes with everything just like black.

Black Coat, Floral Coat, Fur Coat, Fur Collar Coat

This black wool coat is slightly longer, with drop shoulders, a larger lapel, and a tie closure. It feels dressier and has an unmistakable ’80s vibe. The heavier fabric gives it structure without feeling stiff, and I feel especially luxe wearing it this time of year.

 

I’d love a full‑length fur coat someday, and I’m always drawn to fur collars and cuff details, luxe embroidery, colorful plaids, and leopard prints. Also love this one.

 

Now that I have the basics covered, next on my list is a vintage Missoni, Etro, or Valentino statement coat! I just am obsessed with this one Julia has and omg look at this. Keeping my eyes and heart open and wishing you all the same for your collections.